S/O men, if he cheated before will he cheat after?

[Anonymous]

DH cheated on his then girlfriend in his mid-20’s. But I know he would never cheat on me now (married at 40). So I don’t believe in the Once a Cheater Always a Cheater saying.

But I do think the fact that he cheated on YOU is a bad sign. Plus, I don’t think I could ever trust him again. Even if you move forward, you’ll always wonder.

And how would you feel 10 years and 2 kids from now when he cheats again?

[Anonymous]

I cheated on every gf I had, except when I met my now DW. I didn't cheat on her honestly because the opportunity never arose. Married 18 years had the opportunity a couple times and never cheated

[Anonymous]

My wife cheated on me when we were dating as college students. She admitted it and apologized. It was tough, but we got past it. Been married 12 years now, together 18, and have two kids. I don't worry about her cheating in the slightest, and she has never given so much as an inkling that she would do it again.

[Anonymous]

My husband cheated on his college girlfriend. But never on me. I never cheated on anybody but my husband.

You know ... you just don't know.

[Anonymous]

He'll cheat again because he did it before and didn't get caught.

Cheaters cheat in all aspects of life.

[Anonymous]

Op, you are getting a lot of bad advice here from women who have no idea how men think.

Roughly speaking, 15% of men are dogs, will never be faithful. 15% will never cheat, even if their wives deny them sex, affection. 70% are in the middle, they are human, they can and do make a mistake or give into temptation. My guess is your DH falls in the middle, but what do I know. How's your relationship now, does he treat you well?

Point being, you can dump him but you are statistically likely to end up with someone who can also cheat on you.

Finally, I would recommend confronting him. Men compartmentalize sex, many married men would cheat if they could get away with it, and if he thinks he has he is more likely to do it again. It's just sex to men, it doesn't feel like a betrayal unless they see and feel the consequences. It doesn't have to be dramatic, but simply "I know you cheated on me with ______ and if you cheat on me again, I am leaving" It will scare him straight and make him realize what he has to lose.

[Anonymous]

OP leave him, honey. You deserve better.