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what age to monitor parental nudity in front of opposite gender kid(s)?
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Anonymous
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My b/g twins just turned 3 and my husband and I definitely dress/undress in front of them. We don't lounge around the house in the buff but we aren't careful about walking to and fro from the shower, etc.
What age to stop this? I grew up in a household where I have no memories of seeing my parents naked. I'm know many children are raised in a very different environments where nudity is not a big deal (and these kids turn out just fine). Just curious what your personal take on this all is. |
Anonymous
| grew up in a house where dressing/undressing was a casual affair for parents and kids of both genders for pretty much the duration. seems to have exerted no ill effects on me; we will likely do the same. |
Anonymous
| My son just turned 3 and we still take baths together. He completely doesn't pay attention to my body parts, other than laughing at me because I don't have a penis. We also have a family bed and when it is warm we all sleep nude or mostly nude. I'm just taking it month-by-month, year-by-year. I suspect that by the time he is 5, he'll notice things more and it may become uncomfortable, but I'll see. |
Anonymous
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My kid is in later elementary school. I grew up in a house like 10:24, and am raising my son the same way.
It is totally obvious when it is time to stop. Your kid just gets modest at some point, and/or looks at you differently and you say "uh oh. time to get some decent pajamas." For us, the age was around seven. We're not fanatics, but we don't parade around. Our house is very small, so there is more "exposure" than there'd be with an en suite bath etc. |
Anonymous
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Did you have a 'naked' mom?
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/54697.page#389880 |
Anonymous
| I change in front of my 3 year old son after swimming lessons. I'm usually into at least underwear before I come out of the bathroom after a shower, but I can't always do that. It hasn't become an issue yet. I'm glad to hear PP said it will be obvious when it becomes a problem. |
Anonymous
| There was also a "naked dads" thread which I can't find in the archives at the moment. |
Anonymous
Yes, I think this definitly facors in. We have a small house with one bath on the main level and it is near impossible to stay decent. My husband and i also simply don't like wearing clothes, so I would say we do tramps around nude quite frequently. I DREAD the day we have to cover up. Right now DS is 3.5 and don't feel like we need to be modest. I suspect that this is somethign that we will just know when the time comes. |
Anonymous
| As a young girl, I frequently saw both of my parents nude, but only in the context of showering or changing. I did not like to shower alone- just one of those childhood phobias, the hot water, the soap in the eye and so forth. Until about age 8 or 9 I usually would shower with mom, but when she was not around, it was dad. It wasn't gross, it didn't stunt my growth, he never acting in any sort of a sexual manner, It was just me and dad in the buff, nothing more. Of course it was interesting, of course I looked, of course I had questions- what girl wouldn't at eye level with a grown man's penis and testicles. I was never afraid or over stimulated, my father handled it very well- he was honest. As I grew older and showered by myself, nudity became much less frequent. I will always be grateful that my parents were able to be comfortable in this context. |
Anonymous
| As a young girl, I frequently saw both of my parents nude, but only in the context of showering or changing. I did not like to shower alone- just one of those childhood phobias, the hot water, the soap in the eye and so forth. Until about age 8 or 9 I usually would shower with mom, but when she was not around, it was dad. It wasn't gross, it didn't stunt my growth, he never acting in any sort of a sexual manner, It was just me and dad in the buff, nothing more. Of course it was interesting, of course I looked, of course I had questions- what girl wouldn't at eye level with a grown man's penis and testicles. I was never afraid or over stimulated, my father handled it very well- he was honest. As I grew older and showered by myself, nudity became much less frequent. I will always be grateful that my parents were able to be comfortable in this context. |
Anonymous
| My kids will stop seeing us naked when the stop coming into our bathroom uninvited. Privacy once again! Can't wait until THAT happens! |
Anonymous
| for accounting purposes: my DS, 6.5, in recent weeks has made it clear that he is suddenly embarrassed to be naked himself in the locker room when others are milling about. AND he stares a little too long at naked me when I'm dressing without fanfare. All of a sudden, things are opposite-sex awkward after 6.5 years of no big deal. YMMV |
Anonymous
| Yes, we stopped being as casual about nudity when our kids were 6-7, also. |
Anonymous
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I change and use the bathroom around my 4 yo and 21 mo boys; not a lot of naked parading, but we don't make a big deal about nudity one way or the other.
That said, I was changing my bra for the first time in a while in front of my 21 mo today, and he pointed at my breasts and started laughing. Maybe he hasn't seen me naked often enough! |
Anonymous
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21:18's experience is consistent with mine - your kids will tell you. The first time my son started being a bit too curious, I started covering more. He was around 7. I don't make a big deal (and he got a glimpse of me just today) because our house is just too small for complete covering up.
I didn't want to be that "naked mom" so when the kid started thinking about nudity differently, I started wearing a robe. I also pull on PJ's when he crawls into bed with me after nightmares or whatever - I keep a pair handy for that purpose. OP - If you don't have a master suite, too much modesty is really inconvenient and your life with twins is challenging enough. |