Lesbian couples after menopause?

[Anonymous]

Are we going to go from kids constraining our marital bliss to total bed death thanks to menopause? Curious if any older folks can weigh in from a not so straight perspective. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

LBD is a real thing in my house. DW is 55 (I am 41.) DW hasn't been interested in the last 7-8 years. It has taken a lot of soul searching if I want to stay in a sexless marriage, but we've been together 20 years, and I can't fathom not being with her.

[Anonymous]

I have no answers for you yet. I’m early 50s, on HRT and still very sexual. But, my girlfriend is early forties and in perimenopausal horniness and our relationship is still new. We’re still very hot for each other. I have kids but they’re older and not much of a factor in limiting our sex life. Although we’re both very sexual, my sex drive is definitely lower than it was a few years ago. I wonder what will happen once she hits menopause and her drive diminishes. So I’m making the most of it now in case sex is over in a few years...

I think that if it’s important to you, you just have to work to keep your sexual self alive and your intimate connection vibrant. Doing new, exciting things together that pump up your adrenaline is one way to keep the doldrums at bay. Do things that make you feel sexy, whatever that is for you- exercise, dancing, sexting, erotica tend to work for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LBD is a real thing in my house. DW is 55 (I am 41.) DW hasn't been interested in the last 7-8 years. It has taken a lot of soul searching if I want to stay in a sexless marriage, but we've been together 20 years, and I can't fathom not being with her.

Right there with ya, sista. Though I’m part of the problem, too. It’s just so hard to make the time and space. Coming up on 1 yr for us. it bothers me a lot more than it bothers her... but I will never walk away from or endanger this marriage, for any reason.

[Anonymous]

I am so much more sane since my libido left town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no answers for you yet. I’m early 50s, on HRT and still very sexual. But, my girlfriend is early forties and in perimenopausal horniness and our relationship is still new. We’re still very hot for each other. I have kids but they’re older and not much of a factor in limiting our sex life. Although we’re both very sexual, my sex drive is definitely lower than it was a few years ago. I wonder what will happen once she hits menopause and her drive diminishes. So I’m making the most of it now in case sex is over in a few years...

I think that if it’s important to you, you just have to work to keep your sexual self alive and your intimate connection vibrant. Doing new, exciting things together that pump up your adrenaline is one way to keep the doldrums at bay. Do things that make you feel sexy, whatever that is for you- exercise, dancing, sexting, erotica tend to work for me.

You need to really thing about that. Many doctors believe it triggers breast cancer.

[arlsinmyheart]

I'm 40 and my wife is 52. We have had LBD for the better part of 5 years (since my son was born). After kids, I felt so not sexy anymore. Changed that and lost the weight and now I'm hot again lol. She's in menopause and very very busy with her career. TBH we're best friends who co-parent and support each other through life. I am super horny but not all that interested in banging what has become my best friend co-parent. Sounds terrible but it's true. She makes zero moves b/c her libido is -5 at this point. So I sit around fantasizing about hot sex while she goes through the change of life. It's a mess. I have not officially gotten a "free pass" but we've talked openly about letting me explore a bit. I just haven't found the opportunity yet. I don't want to cheat but this sexless marriage stuff SUCKS.