Gay Men Baby Boomers Closet trends, 50s, 60s, 70s

[Anonymous]

I've been doing a little digging into family history and some things are emerging as not 'adding up'. I've heard lots of anecdotal stories real, fictional about closeted men marrying women for a whole host of relevant reasons, but now that it's a little closer to home, I don't want to ask more questions until I'm a little smarter on the subject. My particular story involves a late married man (40s) in the 1960s. I never gave it much thought, because I married almost as late. However, in the course of trying to get more background I thought how cliche some of the things were that I heard.

What I know...
Traveled extensively and pretty luxuriously as an adult with other men
Socialized with family with men friends, no recollection of any women. Even clear memories of the men's names from so long ago- 50+ years
Enjoyed the fine arts, though a STEM type (I know, stereotype)
Married an uptight (strict Catholic) much younger woman
Mental health issues, dating to before the marriage
Withdrawn type of parent (not unusual for the time)
Maybe a suspicious death about 20 years into the marriage

I don't want to open up a can of worms here, but it would explain A LOT of holes in stories and reluctance to discuss. I don't care about whether he was gay or not, but I care about the culture of secrets that has been fostered, which I don't think is healthy.

Are there by any chance any men that were closeted/married in that same time-frame that can enlighten me on the types of women made good wives in these situations, younger, less educated, less worldly? I know this is a shot in the dark, but DCUM has some varied experiences. I wanted to check.

[Anonymous]

What a weird post.

[Anonymous]

Is this about a parent? Or a close male relative?

[Anonymous]

Certainly marrying a much younger, very religious woman would make it easier to hide sexual incapability. Probably, back then, she was virgin. If you knocked her up on the honeymoon, you could avoid sex for at least a year. If you were wealthy enough to spoil her with a lovely house and horses, she might be distracted from the parade of young male companions.

[Anonymous]

What makes you the policeman for the culture of secrets?