Work Crush

[Anonymous]

WWYD, if you noticed that someone at work had a crush on you? His supervisor is a colleague. I am not his supervisor. Slightly younger, too. I would never cross that line at work but outside of the work environment, I would date him. The attention is very sweet, nothing that has ever crossed the line. Simple stares, greetings, and a compliment on a dress.

Has anyone ever been in a situation like this, how did you handle it, and what was the outcome.

[Anonymous]

Don't ever even consider crossing boundaries, especially if you're in a management role.

[Anonymous]

Don’t

[Anonymous]

ask him out. he could be your soulmate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't ever even consider crossing boundaries, especially if you're in a management role.

OP here. Thanks for the reminder.

[Anonymous]

Workplace romances are very common, that's how I met my DH. We were peers in the same division and it just happened. If you're both single and not in any kind of reporting relationship it's not a big issue unless you act foolishly in the office which we never did. When my DH told his boss we were getting married the guy was stunned because he didn't know we were dating and my office was right down the hall. Be smart and be professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Workplace romances are very common, that's how I met my DH. We were peers in the same division and it just happened. If you're both single and not in any kind of reporting relationship it's not a big issue unless you act foolishly in the office which we never did. When my DH told his boss we were getting married the guy was stunned because he didn't know we were dating and my office was right down the hall. Be smart and be professional.

OP here. Thank you for your thoughtful post. I am very reluctant, and I am sure he is too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Workplace romances are very common, that's how I met my DH. We were peers in the same division and it just happened. If you're both single and not in any kind of reporting relationship it's not a big issue unless you act foolishly in the office which we never did. When my DH told his boss we were getting married the guy was stunned because he didn't know we were dating and my office was right down the hall. Be smart and be professional.

OP here. Thank you for your thoughtful post. I am very reluctant, and I am sure he is too.

PP - when we finally connected we kept it a big secret even from our other business friends until we felt good about where we were. This was 30+ years ago when office romances were frowned upon so we were very careful. It was quite a few months before anyone knew but we were outed when someone saw us walking hand in hand 3000 miles away from our office! It was nice that when the word got out that we were engaged everyone was happy for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ask him out. he could be your soulmate.

Is it the same person posting this comment on every single thread about affairs or relationships with possible consequences?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ask him out. he could be your soulmate.

Is it the same person posting this comment on every single thread about affairs or relationships with possible consequences?

Do you really doubt it? Don't listen to idiots. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

If you're both single, and careful, you can date in the office. You need to be mature, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP - when we finally connected we kept it a big secret even from our other business friends until we felt good about where we were. This was 30+ years ago when office romances were frowned upon so we were very careful.

They are even more frowned upon now, especially for the men. Any man who dates someone at work is a fool.

Also, no matter how discreet the lovebirds think they are being, people in the office always know, and they look down on you for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're both single, and careful, you can date in the office. You need to be mature, though.

The "mature" course of action is not to do it at all. There are plenty of single people in the world. Don't poop where you eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're both single, and careful, you can date in the office. You need to be mature, though.

The "mature" course of action is not to do it at all. There are plenty of single people in the world. Don't poop where you eat.

But what if this is "the one"? I say go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP - when we finally connected we kept it a big secret even from our other business friends until we felt good about where we were. This was 30+ years ago when office romances were frowned upon so we were very careful.

They are even more frowned upon now, especially for the men. Any man who dates someone at work is a fool.

Also, no matter how discreet the lovebirds think they are being, people in the office always know, and they look down on you for it.

Sadly, with the current climate you may be right. My bet is that the attitude of HR departments is different now then just a few years ago.