Did I screw it up?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating a guy for about 2 months now. We barely text during the week because we both have very busy schedules, but we do see each other on the weekends (we go out, hang with each others friends, etc). I'm not sure if he's seeing anyone else and vice versa but yesterday when we were out, I accidentally told him I gave someone else my phone number. I think it bothered him because he kept on mentioning it during the night but i kept on reassuring him that I only wanted to see him. Did I screw it up? This may seem like a silly question to everyone but I really like this guy and hope i didn't. Thanks!!

[Anonymous]

Why did you give someone else your number? Was it just to make a friend, or were you looking for a date. If it was just as a friend and he is acting jealous, that would be a problem. If you are still going on dates with others, you two need to have a talk about where you are and where you're going.

[Anonymous]

okay, so its a little weird that you would flaunt this fact, but this is the opportunity for you to clear the air and have a talk with him. Be straightforward: "Listen, I got the feeling that you were upset by what I said. And I realized it was rude. But here's the thing: I really like you and would be interested in being exclusive, I just don't know where you are on that..."

[Anonymous]

If he isn't interested in seeing you during the week, then he's just not into you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the perfect opportunity to have a talk about where things are headed.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you wanted to create some drama to force a discussion of relationship status.

[Anonymous]

You screwed up in that instead of being direct (hey, can we talk about where our relationship is?), you got passive and brought up this other guy as an indirect way to see if he would bring up your relationship status.

I’m a female, but if I were dating you I might dump you. Not because you gave someone else your number. But because you can have a direct conversation about an uncomfortable topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You screwed up in that instead of being direct (hey, can we talk about where our relationship is?), you got passive and brought up this other guy as an indirect way to see if he would bring up your relationship status.

I’m a female, but if I were dating you I might dump you. Not because you gave someone else your number. But because you can't have a direct conversation about an uncomfortable topic.

FYFY. Yeah, I agree. I can't imagine how it would come up in conversation that you gave your number to someone else unless you had ulterior motives. It speaks to your immaturity and I'd dump you.

[Anonymous]

OP, please explain how you “accidentally” told him you gave someone else your number? I would be turned off for several reasons, but mostly because that would make me concerned you’re an emotionally immature drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Why would you mention that and not assume he'd have a negative reaction? If you wanted to get a better sense for his feelings, there are many better ways to do it. If I was a guy I'd find an exit.

[Anonymous]

Ok here, I was drunk when I mentioned it (We were out celebrating my friends birthday) I don’t think I’m an emotionally drama queen, though I am an “open book” and really like being honest. Anyway, thank you!

[Anonymous]

Are you seeing more then one guy?

[Anonymous]

He's gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok here, I was drunk when I mentioned it (We were out celebrating my friends birthday) I don’t think I’m an emotionally drama queen, though I am an “open book” and really like being honest. Anyway, thank you!

Dude, you told him you're still on the lookout for someone better. That wasn't honest, it was cruel, and anyone with self-respect would be done with you.

[Anonymous]

Yes cause you have a bf.