If you’re divorced

[Anonymous]

Does your ex still hang out with your family members without you or vice versa?

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it’s so rare and far in between it’s NBD. We have a child together. Over time the relationships wane but the cordiality remains.

[Anonymous]

No, but our parents really liked each other and they still have dinner together every so often. My XH isn’t on Facebook, but I’m still friends on FB with several of his family members and we are friendly to each other and comment and occasionally message. They are really nice people. If he personally was friendly with my family member I think I’d be fine with that—what happened was between us. The family members we each became friends with shouldn’t have to terminate a friendship in the name of “picking sides” in a battle they had no part of.

[Anonymous]

No, but we didn't have kids.

[Anonymous]

No. My parents don't think much of him (he cheated and lied).

I'm still friendly with his Mom and we text every once in a while. She's not local so there's not really an opportunity to see her. She's been really supportive of me.

[Anonymous]

My ex does not see my family. He cheated (not the cheater-with-a-heart-of-gold constantly portrayed on DCUM. A scumbag.).

My kids and I fly across the country and spend a week with his parents, and see various relatives of his, once a year.

[Anonymous]

My STBX cheated on me and my mom still adores him.

Says a lot I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My STBX cheated on me and my mom still adores him.

Says a lot I guess.

It says you should seek therapy.

[Anonymous]

Divorce is war. Everyone has to choose a side. Nobody will be allowed to remain neutral.

[Anonymous]

I see my former MIL once or twice a year in the company of my minor child. I’ve seen my former FIL once, one former BIL and his kids twice. The remaining ones are enablers. Now that he’s sucking them dry, they are more sympathetic, but they didn’t help me and kids a bit at the height of his abuse. So I wouldn’t care if I never saw them.

[Anonymous]

My ex is a liar and a cheater. I’m best friends with his sister and brother in law though. I wasn’t super close to them before the divorce but they were mortified by his behavior. My ex went off the deep end for a while and my ex-Sil knew I was the access to her niece and nephew. I stayed in touch with another sister of his that lives out of town. Our contact is less now that she’s close with my ex again. His dad tried staying in touch but things were too raw early on for me to keep things going. I send his family holiday and school pics every year. I do appreciate 2 of my 3 ex-SIL’s wanting to stay in touch to be involved with my kids.

My sister still won’t deal or talk to my ex. My parents came around and he’s super friendly when he sees my mom. He and I are very civil with each other. It’s a shame that we get along so well but I’ll always see him as a liar and cheater

[Anonymous]

no

[Anonymous]

No. I blocked them all on FB. If they came into town and wanted to see DD, I would be fine with arranging that. But he was abusive and the divorce is nasty, so they all became liabilities. Many of them were hurt I severed the relationship with his family when I left. We used to vacation together without him.