Pep talk !

[Anonymous]

DD is 6 and in K. Academic year is concluding soon. I think by now all the classmates know who is smarter and who is not. Until now there was no formal education and the kids did not care. Seems like now they do ! For ex - dd comes home and talks about X Y Z in her class ( one of who is a child prodigy and for all I know others are being taught at home by parents) .....and how she is not that smart !! We dont do anything extra at home and she is doing fine in my view.
I figured this is just the beginning ! Also, we want to avoid tutoring for as long as we can. How do you keep your child's morale high ? How do you teach your child to genuinely believe in herself/ himself without sounding preachy? Share your tips ! She is my first. TIA

[Anonymous]

Honestly I wouldn't worry about tutoring unless she's really struggling and not keeping up.

There is more to life than being the smartest!

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP. plus she’s six for God’s sake. Let her enjoy her life and not worry about being the smartest. Now if she’s struggling and just can’t learn (fill in the blank) then yes, get a tutor but don’t push that pressure on her or yourself. She will graduate HS, she will go to college and graduate and get a good job bc you’re a parent that cares and probably reads to her and takes her to museums. It will be okay.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she is doing fine. No need for tutoring. I’d just tell her to focus on how she is doing and what she is learning, not to compare herself with others.

[froggymom]

Maybe have a talk with her about how we are all blessed in different ways. There can only be one number one and there is nothing wrong if you're not it. Help her to understand the things most important in life have nothing to do with how smart you are. Instill in her good values and let her know by your words and more your actions that those values are what really matter. You can help develop her self esteem by keeping her busy with new activities that she can succeed at. She is a beautiful, wonderful creation and should be only the best only she can be.

[Anonymous]

I came home crying the first day of kindergarten because "Mommy, I met a boy who is smarter than me!" And he was (and is). He could find the square roots of numbers in K; he is now a math professor at a T25 university. I think it was good for me to realize that there were smarter people out there

[Anonymous]

OP here ! It is funny that I met her teacher today and she was more than pleasd
ed with DD. As per her, she is one of the few who is doing great both socially and academically. She is increasingly seeing social behaviour problems in kids with each passing year - mostly either too concieted or rowdy or disruptive.