Mother’s Day response

[Anonymous]

I swear, I am NOT trying to start some kind of uf ugly discussion.. I’m just truly curious as to how to respond today.

I am friends with a female same sex couple. With today being mother's Day, of course there are the requisite quotes about how awesome mothers are, etc.
But, their posts have taken a weird turn, proclaiming with all kinds of hashtags that having two mothers is winning the lottery, it’s the only way to be happy, fathers suck, two mothers is better than one mother/one father, etc.

I understand this couple stuggles to have their child, and I know they have so many battles against them, but I’m finding today’s message off putting to say the least. That being said, they are accompanies by adorable pics of their baby, and I half want to like them, but I don’t agree with the divisive message.

I asked another (same sex/male) couple that we know what they felt, because they don’t outwardly display this kind of message, but I was wondering if they felt the same way.

How do I respond today? I want to “like” the pics of the baby and support the fact that they are two wonderful mothers, but I’m not keen on the “mothers are better than fathers” message. Like I said, I’m in a normal hetero relationship, and I have a few same sex male parent friends.

Is it better to ignore? Let it go today and say something tomorrow? Like the baby pics for the sake of it? Again, I am supportive and care for these people, but I also do t usually support ANY of my friends when they are obnoxious. I’m trying to be sensitive, but I also don’t agree with their posts

[Anonymous]

Are you interpreting that or did they actually say that? Please copy the exact phrasing and hashtags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you interpreting that or did they actually say that? Please copy the exact phrasing and hashtags.

So you can find them based on the hashtags? No, I’m not going to do that. They are obvious in the meaning behind the hashtags; no interpretation required. This would be as clear cut as #theskyisblue

[Anonymous]

Ignore all together or just comment on the content of the pic "Baby looks adorable!". I certainly wouldn't "like" something I didn't like.

[Anonymous]

I’d respond with something like, “Are you really bashing straight families and 2-dad families, or is this a joke? I’m missing something here. Larlo is as cute as ever.”

[Anonymous]

Do you really take social media this seriously?

Look, a lot of things in this life are a pendulum swing. People who have felt suppressed, marginalized and “unseen” for their whole lives may be a little out-er and loud-er and here-er and queer-er than you would like. This type of dynamic may settle in a bit, given time and acceptance and recognition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you really take social media this seriously?

Look, a lot of things in this life are a pendulum swing. People who have felt suppressed, marginalized and “unseen” for their whole lives may be a little out-er and loud-er and here-er and queer-er than you would like. This type of dynamic may settle in a bit, given time and acceptance and recognition.

I actually don’t take it seriously, but I didn’t think of this side. Maybei didn’t because because I don’t take it that seriously, and don’t see it as the platform others might. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

My guess is that you are reading too much into it. It's mother's day and they are celebrating what sounds like their first foray into parenthood on the same day that the world is proclaiming how wonderful mothers are. If one mother is awesome that maybe having two is the motherload. If this were any other day, then you might be right that these parents have some weird biases.

So, as others said, comment on the adorable baby.

As an aside, we are a two mom family. When our kids were little, every year around mother's day, our experience was this. Our kids had to choose which mom to celebrate when it came to giving the daycare card or flower and countless people told our kids how lucky they were to have two moms. We seriously never thought our family make up was/is better than any other. But on that one day a year, it was really kind of nice for people to acknowledge that there are some positives of having two moms. Mostly, we hear how awful our kids have it because they have no dad and how they can't possibly grow up to be healthy and productive adults because somehow we deprived them of a life with a dad.

[Anonymous]

You don’t have to do anything. Scroll past and get on with your own life.

[Anonymous]

They sound immature. Just ignore the posts and move on.

If they post a lot of ideas you disagree with, you can hide or unfriend them. Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

You lost me at “I’m in a NORMAL hetero relationship” Gross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You lost me at “I’m in a NORMAL hetero relationship” Gross

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