Rant about mad-over-nothing DH

[Anonymous]

So we’re sorting out our bookings for our upcoming vacation to Europe and DH wants to annotate the cities on the train tickets (X to Y). He looks at two different PDF tickets and asks me which is which. I said “X to Y” and “Y to Z”. He wrote “X to Y” on the one that is actually “Y to Z”. He learns that it’s the wrong one and literally yells while throwing down the marker “Then you *beep* do it then!” I just sigh and finish annotating. I’m annoyed that he isn’t even the least remorseful over his lame outburst. It’s lame because I made almost all of the bookings for this trip months ago and so it’s not like we’re scrambling to book something. And yet he was panicking over nothing. It’s ironic because I’m usually the neurotic one (which is why I locked everything in months ago). I’m way more even-tempered than he is so perhaps I don’t get it (it takes a lot to make me angry). I also realize that this post demonstrates how gendered our responses are- I’m venting on DCUM while he has no qualms yelling and is now watching CNN.

[Anonymous]

How did he learn it was the wrong one?

You both clearly have mental issues.

[Anonymous]

He sounds stressed. Does he usually get stressed by trips?

[Anonymous]

How do you write with a marker on PDF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you write with a marker on PDF?

These were printed hard copies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did he learn it was the wrong one?

You both clearly have mental issues.

How am I mental???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds stressed. Does he usually get stressed by trips?

Yes. Especially now that he's retired and he has lost his coveted priority status that used to get him upgrades, lounge access etc. We were in Europe last year and he was worked up over not having any perks. He didn't say it of course, but I could tell because we have been together way before he retired. He didn't like travelling then either but it's worse now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did he learn it was the wrong one?

You both clearly have mental issues.

He finished writing before I could correct him and asked if he did it right. I said "Uh, no it's the other one" and that's when he blew up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(it takes a lot to make me angry)

Are you sure about that? Self reflect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds stressed. Does he usually get stressed by trips?

Yes. Especially now that he's retired and he has lost his coveted priority status that used to get him upgrades, lounge access etc. We were in Europe last year and he was worked up over not having any perks. He didn't say it of course, but I could tell because we have been together way before he retired. He didn't like travelling then either but it's worse now.

Upgrade to business class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(it takes a lot to make me angry)

Are you sure about that? Self reflect.

. I don't usually get angry unless I'm being directly attacked. I also don't have children so that helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds stressed. Does he usually get stressed by trips?

Yes. Especially now that he's retired and he has lost his coveted priority status that used to get him upgrades, lounge access etc. We were in Europe last year and he was worked up over not having any perks. He didn't say it of course, but I could tell because we have been together way before he retired. He didn't like travelling then either but it's worse now.

Upgrade to business class.

Haha, I wish! If it's not something, it's something else. We could fly business and he'd still worry about the plane crashing or some other imagined disaster.

[Anonymous]

Do not always worry about meeting your husband's demands, otherwise he will continue to berate, belittle, and walk all over you. Say, "I made these arrangements to my satisfaction, if you do not approve, you are welcome to make any changes."

[Anonymous]

He could be depressed, retirement is a common trigger. It is also odd that he asked you if he did it right. Is it possible he is having cognitive issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He could be depressed, retirement is a common trigger. It is also odd that he asked you if he did it right. Is it possible he is having cognitive issues?

Agree