Do you wish you had been told about ovarian reserve testing in your 20s/early 30s?

[Anonymous]

Do you wish you had been told about ovarian reserve testing in your 20s/early 30s? I sure do. I remember going to my GYN when I was 30 and discussing the idea of getting pregnant or waiting a few years and I remember him telling me that I was too young to be thinking about that and wait a few years (which I was planning to do anyway, his advice wasn't going to change my decision). I eventually started TTC at 35. I wish a doctor had told me about the AMH test or the antral follicle ultrasound, and that I had gotten one or both of these simple tests done in my late 20's/early 30s. The results would have most likely changed my plans for TTC (to start earlier). Then I wouldn't be dealing with the infertility heartache that I'm dealing with now.

[Anonymous]

That, and also Semen Analysis for men. We were male factor and simple semen analysis would have solved question earlier (to do IVF or try natural). Wasted my good fertile years on not having the semen analysis (he refused until I pressed him big time). I resent him on that very much till this day.

[Anonymous]

Yes I think it should be given to women at 25, 30 and 35. We were pretty shocked we had infertility at 27 (MFI and low AMH)

[Anonymous]

yes. i might have started earlier.

[Anonymous]

That's crazy! My Gyn told me at 30 to start TTC ASAP. Fertility problems are one thing, there are also risks to you and the pregnancy with age.

[Anonymous]

HOLD THE PRESSES! You mean fertility decreases with age? Why isn’t anyone talking about this?!

Wait, they are and always have been. Either you listen and do something about it or choose to live on planet “hope for the best.”

[Anonymous]

I'll chime in with a different point of view.

I didn't meet my spouse until I was in my early 30s. So testing in my 20s would have possibly pushed me to marry the wrong person in a panic to pop out a few babies.

I am now a bit older and I can say from observing peers that having kids with the wrong person is a rough and long road. Because you are stuck with that person for the rest of your days as a co-parent, even if you split up.

I would have rather struggled with the right person at the time I did.

But that is obviously from the perspective of meeting the right person later in life. If you're married to the right person at 25 and you want more info, sure go ahead and get testing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's crazy! My Gyn told me at 30 to start TTC ASAP. Fertility problems are one thing, there are also risks to you and the pregnancy with age.

Sounding the ASAP alarm bell at 30 is also crazy.

[Anonymous]

It really. Everyone know fertility drops as you age and anything over 30 is risky. I think you are upset and trying to find someone to blame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's crazy! My Gyn told me at 30 to start TTC ASAP. Fertility problems are one thing, there are also risks to you and the pregnancy with age.

Sounding the ASAP alarm bell at 30 is also crazy.

Trust me I thought the same thing, then I started talking to friends who were having all sorts of fertility problems, and experiencing pregnancy/childbirth complications I thought only happened in developing countries.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. I got married at 24 and was ready to start having babies. My spouse preferred to wait a bit. I didn't think that was unreasonable, especially given our young ages, so I didn't force the issue until I was 28. It took a few months to conceive DS, but not enough that it raised any suspicion of fertility issues. So, when TTC #2 I followed my ob/gyns and the general medical advise to try for a year before worrying about why I hadn't gotten pregnant. Lo and behold when I finally got to an RE... DOR. I didn't meet my husband late, we had stable careers, a house, etc. We for sure could have started earlier and probably would already have a 2nd, and a chance for a 3rd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's crazy! My Gyn told me at 30 to start TTC ASAP. Fertility problems are one thing, there are also risks to you and the pregnancy with age.

Sounding the ASAP alarm bell at 30 is also crazy.

Trust me I thought the same thing, then I started talking to friends who were having all sorts of fertility problems, and experiencing pregnancy/childbirth complications I thought only happened in developing countries.

Most of the moms in my large mom's group are early 30s. HIGH numbers of IUI/IVF babies, including my own. I was shocked how common it was because I was embarrassed to be at Shady Grove at 30 and felt too young.

[Anonymous]

I do think that the testing could scare people, but I remember getting some good GYN advice in my 30's. I was asked about my mother's fertility, grandmothers, etc. That, she told me was the best indicator of what was ahead of me. I know a woman whose mother suffered probably 6-7 miscarriages in the 80s. She never sought any testing and she's had two m/c and one healthy pregnancy, but lots of months of not getting pregnant. Some of the info is available to us, we just don't know what it means for potential fertility.

[Anonymous]

I suppose I didn't need a test. I knew my mother and maternal grandmother had secondary infertility in their 30s, so based on that information, I decided not to wait.

[Anonymous]

My friend had a great AMH in her mid-30's. She took her time with trying to have a child, and now has run out of options. In her case it was false reassurance.