If no type of discipline worked for your child...

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What were they ultimately diagnosed with?

[Anonymous]

Inattentive ADHD. It pains me to recall how my husband yelled, confiscated his toys, and set up a system of rewards his brain could never follow.

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Anxiety and ADHD

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Adhd hyperactive. We are lucky that he is pretty good natured, so generally let’s us corral him into doing things before it escalates to defiance/punishment. But we also pick our battles. He’s six and getting him to clean up toys by himself is tough, so maybe one of us tells him a story while he’s cleaning (he loves the crazy stories my husband comes up with. We’ve done reward charts, and it’s helped with some stuff permanently but usually starts to lose its effectiveness within 5 days or so. I also tie perks that he would have gotten anyway (like tv) to doing some easy chores. But if we just said “it’s saturday and you have to clean your room,” it would certainly escalate to tears and stress. Life’s too short.

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Anonymous wrote:What were they ultimately diagnosed with?

What kind of support do you have?

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In addition to picking your battles, change your vocabulary. You aren't disciplining, you are teaching. Extreme example, but consider the movie portrayal of Helen Keller. It is the teacher's job to figure out how the student learns. It is a hard job.

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ADHD hyperactive. Therapy and meds helped a ton. She’s 13 now and a truly amazing humans being. Never would have thought she could be as disciplined and responsible as she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Inattentive ADHD. It pains me to recall how my husband yelled, confiscated his toys, and set up a system of rewards his brain could never follow.

Same dx. Did you find anything that worked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ADHD hyperactive. Therapy and meds helped a ton. She’s 13 now and a truly amazing humans being. Never would have thought she could be as disciplined and responsible as she is.

How much therapy did she do?

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Anonymous wrote:What were they ultimately diagnosed with?

What kind of support do you have?

Curious that I’ve read “no discipline worked” over and over again in these threads but I can’t tell how many different diagnoses this applies to. We are finally getting the support we need. I’ve occasionally wondered if we’re also dealing with HFA .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What were they ultimately diagnosed with?

What kind of support do you have?

Curious that I’ve read “no discipline worked” over and over again in these threads but I can’t tell how many different diagnoses this applies to. We are finally getting the support we need. I’ve occasionally wondered if we’re also dealing with HFA .

1. If discipline isn't effectively and *consistantly* used, it won't work.

2. How many different people are working/caring for your child? Are all involved comparing their observations?

3. How long have you tried each method?

4. Which methods have you tried?

5. How are the teachers managing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What were they ultimately diagnosed with?

What kind of support do you have?

Curious that I’ve read “no discipline worked” over and over again in these threads but I can’t tell how many different diagnoses this applies to. We are finally getting the support we need. I’ve occasionally wondered if we’re also dealing with HFA .

1. If discipline isn't effectively and *consistantly* used, it won't work.

2. How many different people are working/caring for your child? Are all involved comparing their observations?

3. How long have you tried each method?

4. Which methods have you tried?

5. How are the teachers managing?

Entire childhood, any bit of consequence led to escalation. Child would rather argue and escalate, increasing consequences than just deal with the original relatively minor one and move on - always goes nuclear. After years of all of us suffering, finally an ADD diagnosis. Curious about HFA too. I’ve been reading that a lot of people have had this experience on these threads. My other child, NT, isn’t like this- hardly ever needs any thing more than a reminder or minor consequence.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What were they ultimately diagnosed with?

What kind of support do you have?

Curious that I’ve read “no discipline worked” over and over again in these threads but I can’t tell how many different diagnoses this applies to. We are finally getting the support we need. I’ve occasionally wondered if we’re also dealing with HFA .

1. If discipline isn't effectively and *consistantly* used, it won't work.

2. How many different people are working/caring for your child? Are all involved comparing their observations?

3. How long have you tried each method?

4. Which methods have you tried?

5. How are the teachers managing?

Entire childhood, any bit of consequence led to escalation. Child would rather argue and escalate, increasing consequences than just deal with the original relatively minor one and move on - always goes nuclear. After years of all of us suffering, finally an ADD diagnosis. Curious about HFA too. I’ve been reading that a lot of people have had this experience on these threads. My other child, NT, isn’t like this- hardly ever needs any thing more than a reminder or minor consequence.

What's going nuclear for your child? Kicking you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What were they ultimately diagnosed with?

ADHD inattentive and anxiety

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Anonymous wrote:
Inattentive ADHD. It pains me to recall how my husband yelled, confiscated his toys, and set up a system of rewards his brain could never follow.

Did your husband get a diagnosis for his in appropriate anger outbursts?