Top 3 things you needed help with during your divorce

[Anonymous]

Please and thanks! I'm considering divorce consulting and want to steer my studies in the right direction. Hopefully all of you posters who helped me through my divorce can share.

Some examples of what I'm considering include emotional support, financial planning, advice, document drafting, practical support, health and wellness, advocacy, grief recovery, protection and safety, parallel parenting plans, etc.

I'm thinking a BA in psych, topped up with university certificates (1 year programs) in various applicable areas. Possibly law school not sure yet.

[Anonymous]

You're getting a divorce and you want to go to college at the same time as single-highhandedly raising 1 or more kids? Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're getting a divorce and you want to go to college at the same time as single-highhandedly raising 1 or more kids? Good luck with that.

It sounds to me like she already got a divorce and now wants to have a job helping other people with theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting a divorce and you want to go to college at the same time as single-highhandedly raising 1 or more kids? Good luck with that.

It sounds to me like she already got a divorce and now wants to have a job helping other people with theirs.

Okay, I see. So OP is putting together a list of all the items individuals would want help with in their divorce - basically to become a doula for divorcees? Well, that's interesting. Personally I think its enough that divorcees are paying lawyer's hourly rates. Asking for someone else to pay your consultant fees on top is a bit much.

[Anonymous]

WTF is "divorce consulting"? Is this actually a thing? Ugh, gross.

[Anonymous]

OP here. To clarify: I'm halfway through my BA. History of banking, accounting and office management professions. No support from ex. Kids are in school and I can afford a few years to invest in my career & work part time.

I've been raising kids alone since birth. My divorce is near done (2+ yrs in but no need to go to trial anymore after what happened in deposistion).

I've been looking to make some changes to create the life I want. I was considering doing my masters and becoming a psychologist, but I have plenty of business and organizational skills that I would like to put to use.

I have learned a lot and am helping a friend and a SIL navigate theirs. Which made me think - I like doing this, plus top notch lawyers don't have endless time to deal with some of the smaller things (nevermind the $). Clients who show up with their thoughts lined up and some basics covered would be more efficient and cost effective for everyonr

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To clarify: I'm halfway through my BA. History of banking, accounting and office management professions. No support from ex. Kids are in school and I can afford a few years to invest in my career & work part time.

I've been raising kids alone since birth. My divorce is near done (2+ yrs in but no need to go to trial anymore after what happened in deposistion).

I've been looking to make some changes to create the life I want. I was considering doing my masters and becoming a psychologist, but I have plenty of business and organizational skills that I would like to put to use.

I have learned a lot and am helping a friend and a SIL navigate theirs. Which made me think - I like doing this, plus top notch lawyers don't have endless time to deal with some of the smaller things (nevermind the $). Clients who show up with their thoughts lined up and some basics covered would be more efficient and cost effective for everyonr

I can see how this would be useful in what sounds like in your circles (women with some affluence) who can afford it. You'll have to build a good client base though.

[Anonymous]

I told my friends exactly which forms to file or who to ask for free help if needed and gave them a copy of my marriage dissolution agreement with several adjustments and help them do QDRO. I served the papers (not a surprise, planned) and had many drinks with. That's what my "service" includes. No lawyer divorce path for couples who want to save money and don't have spite.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if there’s a market for this. The high priced divorce law firms are struggling because there’s only so much they can do. Support is a formula. Maybe with uncovering hidden assets?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if there’s a market for this. The high priced divorce law firms are struggling because there’s only so much they can do. Support is a formula. Maybe with uncovering hidden assets?

But wouldn't that be a private investigator? She'd need police skills and/or coding knowledge?

[Anonymous]

You're getting a BA in psych. Can't you do something directly related to divorce? Divorce grief counsellor? I can see how that can be a good specialty to have. You don't want to compete with what the lawyers are doing.

Just a piece of advice - don't go to law school. Unless you sell your soul and go big law, your loans won't be worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if there’s a market for this. The high priced divorce law firms are struggling because there’s only so much they can do. Support is a formula. Maybe with uncovering hidden assets?

But wouldn't that be a private investigator? She'd need police skills and/or coding knowledge?

I meant expensive divorce lawyers may be useful for like issuing bank subpoenas and deposing people in high value cases. But in most divorces people may fight but there’s only so much wiggle room.

[Anonymous]

I think that divorce is stressful and that emotional support (you can do it) is sorely needed.

I also think that practical advice is important. How do you work out as a single parent? What do you do if you get sick as a single parent? How do you talk with your kids about situations?