Straight female marrying a bi guy

[Anonymous]

I'm a widowed straight female. I have 2 great kids (16 and 19). I don't want anymore.

I don't want sex.

I want a companion.

My best friend is a bi sexual leaning towards the gay side guy.

We have been best friends for 8 years. We do everything together. Neither of us dates, at all. Zero interest.

We rely on each other for everything. From the outside we look like this perfect couple that just hasn't settled down.

Well, we were talking and it's one of those "if neither of us is in a steady relationship by 50, let's get married". We both have good jobs, he has great long term medical and a fantastic retirement plan. Mine is pretty good.

Neither of us wants to have sex with each other, or anyone for that matter. VERY low drive.

We are seriously considering this as 50 will be here in 1 year.

My kids think he's great.

We each own a house and pay all bills associated. If we live together that will save money.


Why not live together, cut living expenses in half, if he puts me on his medical, it saves me a ton of money. We already do everything together as it is, this would be a marriage with my best friend minus sex. Isn't that how many marriages are now and days anyways? This way we have someone lined up to stay with, benefits, retirement, etc.

It feels like a win win

[Anonymous]

A marriage can be sexless...but loveless? You say you don't want sex, okay you're asexual. But you didn't say anything about him and whether he's attracted to you or anybody else. Honestly and not rhetorically, how would you feel if he "cheated" on you and the other way around?

[Anonymous]

What happens if you meet someone to whom you are attracted? Or if he does? Sounds like the makings of a heartbreaking movie.

[Anonymous]

This sounds very pleasant and sweet as long as neither of you meets someone. He can say you are domestic partners and add you to his insurance under some policies. I'm all for moving in together and combining lives, but you may not need to get married to have those benefits.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a win win, except you will pay more taxes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens if you meet someone to whom you are attracted? Or if he does? Sounds like the makings of a heartbreaking movie.

She doesn’t care about sex or dating anymore.

Do what you want. Why do you feel you need to marry though? You don’t just want to live together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens if you meet someone to whom you are attracted? Or if he does? Sounds like the makings of a heartbreaking movie.

Why would it be heartbreaking if she is not in love with him? They can have a pre-nup and settle their affairs pretty easily if they break up.

[Anonymous]

I'm bi and am married to a straight man. Just because I enjoy women doesn't mean that I can't enjoy men, too. That's the beauty of being bi. We have the best of both worlds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happens if you meet someone to whom you are attracted? Or if he does? Sounds like the makings of a heartbreaking movie.

She doesn’t care about sex or dating anymore.

Do what you want. Why do you feel you need to marry though? You don’t just want to live together?

Get married if you want, but nowadays many companies gives benefits to domestic partners.

[Anonymous]

This all sounds fine until one of you meets THE ONE. Be domestic partners or roommates.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a serial killer movie.

[Anonymous]

It’s an inter-orientation marriage. Google it - it’s a thing.

Maybe they have some support resources for folks like you.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand, why do you want to get married again?

[Anonymous]

Make sure you get a prenup. If you die first he could get your money instead of your kids getting it.

[Anonymous]

Just be friends; this is sad.