Ex texted me "I miss you"

[Anonymous]

I was in a 5 month relationship with someone who I fell really hard for. Turns out the feelings were not mutual and he still had unfinished business with his ex girlfriend. He ended things with me to try again with her. I was completely heartbroken but I am really proud of myself after he ended things. There was no begging and I accepted his decision. I have been trying to move on and I felt having no contact was the best way to accomplish that.

Since we ended 2.5 months ago I have not attempted to contact him 1 time. He's sent me a couple of messages early on asking me how I was but I never responded. He sent me a text today that said "I miss you". Why would he send me a message like that? I am not flattered by it. I feel he is being so selfish by sending me that. He knows how I felt about him. He has a girlfriend and sends me that. I have no plans to respond and I blocked his number and I blocked him on social media. I feel like he set me back today. I am mad at myself for having such a strong reaction to it. I just wish I felt nothing but indifference.

[Anonymous]

Forward the messages to his GF.

[Anonymous]

Be proud of yourself for having such a wise reaction to it. As far as that jerk knows you feel nothing but indifference and regardless of whatever selfish plans he had in mind your no contact has set him back - good.

[Anonymous]

You’re in your way to feeling indifference. You’ll get there. I promise. He’s a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Things are probably not going as well as he hoped with his gf, so he wants to see if there are any chances left with you in case that completely doesn’t work out. Just lining up options in a way. Or just he didn’t foresee your reaction, that ones he asked for it to be over it is really over. It seems he and his gf have on off relationship and he thought he could have that with you too - changing mind, going back and forth, drama etc.

You did right and you’re better off without someone like that in your life.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like he will perpetually want what he doesn't have.

[Anonymous]

Keep singing the Charlie Puth song, "Attention", to yourself. This is it. This is the way to understand it.

[Anonymous]

Block his number. Block him on Facebook or anywhere he could contact you. And send his email to spam.

You are right, he’s a selfish jerk.

Keep moving forward, op. You deserve so much more out of life than a guy who can’t make up his mind.

[Anonymous]

He wants to keep you on the back burner. If for nothing else for sex. Keep ignoring him!

[Anonymous]

I get this annually from two ex boyfriends. No joke I've told them I'm not interested, don't contact me. Annually for years they always reach out. I don't respond. I'm married to a man 10x better than who they are and I find it a sure sign that they do this to everyone they date.

[Anonymous]

He’s an insecure ass and either the former ex broke up with him or the writing is on the wall that she will.

Good job burning that bridge, no need to walk across it again

[Anonymous]

Sending strength and kudos op. He's an ass, you got this!

[Anonymous]

Ignore. Boy bye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re in your way to feeling indifference. You’ll get there. I promise. He’s a jerk.

This. Maybe his girlfriend ditched him and he sees you as backup.
Maybe he just wants sex.
Maybe he just needs an ego boost that he’s got someone on the back burner.

Because if a real man, a mature one, an honest one, truly had second thoughts and a real desire to try again, he’d CALL you and tell you, and ask to meet face to face, but be humble enough to have no expectations.

Texting makes communications too easy for weak cowards.

Be proud of YOUR strength.

[Anonymous]

You're smart, OP. You'll do very well for yourself, I think. Good luck!