What helped you emotionally after miscarriage?

[Anonymous]

Just lost the baby at 16 weeks.

Of course I am very sad but feel lucky to have a strong support system in my husband, family and friends.

What helped you cope?

[Anonymous]

Hanging out in bed with my dog. Honestly once my body was physically recovered, I was mentally recovered. I was not devastated - mostly I felt guilty for NOT being more upset.

[Anonymous]

Time.

I delivered at 21 weeks after my water broke. I knew from triage that my son would not survive more than a couple of hours but I had no choice but to labor and deliver.

We had a 4 year old at home so I couldn't completely fall apart, but when he didn't need me I basically holed up in my house, slept and cried for 2 weeks until I had to return to work.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Zoloft and trazadone for sleep. I was really a wreck because I had complications from the miscarriage that took months and months to resolve.

[Anonymous]

So sorry for your loss. No advice, but thinking of you.

[Anonymous]

Couples therapy about the loss specifically and after a couple of sessions of that, I pursued my own therapy for residual depression and anxiety. It helped I had an established relationship with a therapist once I got pregnant again as she helped me work through the anxiety I had around that. I'm so sorry for your loss OP.

[Anonymous]

I just had on at the beginning of March and for me, I had to overcome my introvert ways and talk about it with a few trusted people. It was just too isolating for me to keep it to myself, and i could feel myself spiraling downward, so I started talking to a few people, it really helped me.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I found out 1 year ago today that my baby had died at 18 weeks. I still miss our baby (and cried this morning when looking at ultrasound photos of him).

We did all of the testing available and never figured out why he passed away. I attended a Capitol MISS Foundation meeting, read a lot about pregnancy loss, cried a lot, and talked with my husband about missing the baby. I think I went through some post-traumatic stress and depression. We also had two major family losses in the 8 months after.

We are fortunate to be expecting another baby. The new baby is not a replacement, but is a big source of hope. The second pregnancy had some complications in the beginning, and my doctors at GW have been really supportive to make sure I get extra reassurances.

I'm a private person and kept a lot to myself, my husband, mom, and sister. But I have found over time that it helps to (appropriately) mention to people that we lost a baby and feel like I'm not hiding.

You're not alone.

[Anonymous]

Zoloft, Xanax, therapy, self-help books, online support forums (sometimes), avoiding babies, watching funny/stupid reality TV. As much as I hate to admit it, excercise and throwing myself into work too.

And honestly, the biggest was time. It was so traumatic for me at 11 weeks, I can’t imagine it at 16 weeks. I’m so very sorry.Please be gentle with yourself. Miscarriage is so cruel and lonely.

[Anonymous]

So sorry OP

[Anonymous]

I wrote a thing about it on Medium and posted it to Facebook. Certainly not for everyone, but helped me to have people know where I was at without having to rehash it a million time.

So sorry for your loss; nothing makes it better/easier but time.

[Anonymous]

Time and opening up about it to people close to me. And more time. I'm sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

What helped me the most was praying. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Talking to a friend who had had many losses--7 or more? Her stories were awful but I felt so much less alone.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for your loss OP. I know this isn’t what you want to hear right now, but getting pregnant again did it. It makes for a very nerve wracking pregnancy, because you’re always waiting for it to happen again. But you spend less time thinking about the earlier event.

OP, please don’t play “what if” or figure out what you did wrong. You didn’t do anything wrong. It’s not your fault.

Also, I stayed away from TTC boards. I needed that break.