How do you guys respond to racism from your friends/family?

[Anonymous]

So yesterday I was giving my friend a ride home, and I love this girl so much. I haven’t seen her for 6 years because she moved to Switzerland but she’s been back and I just love talking her.

However, on the ride home, she started taking about how much she hates a manager at our job (we work together) who is Indian and then went on a whole rant about how much she hates Indians. As a black man, I was very disturbed as my people go through discrimination as well, but I get anxiety in these situations. She also bought me fries, so I felt even worse calling her out, but I want to let her know that, that type of thinking is outdated and wrong. I guess I’m looking for advice but also how you guys handle these situations

[Anonymous]

The fact that you allowed her to go on about it because she bought you fries shows that you aren’t bright as well.

[Anonymous]

I say "that's so racist!" In a way that's a little too over the top that it's jokey, but still gets the point across.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that you allowed her to go on about it because she bought you fries shows that you aren’t bright as well.

It wasn’t just the fries, I would’ve been too anxious to say anything regardless (I didn’t even know the fries were for me until after her rant). Talking about race is such a divisive topic and I’ve gotten into so many ugly debates over it that I don’t want to go back down that road. I feel like I can’t change her mind, but I do plan to say something if she says it again.

[Anonymous]

If I said I agreed with what she said, I could understand you guys calling me a troll.

I didn’t say anything because I was uncomfortable and didn’t want to get into an argument with one of the FEW friends I have. As I said, if she does it again, I do plan to call her out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I said I agreed with what she said, I could understand you guys calling me a troll.

I didn’t say anything because I was uncomfortable and didn’t want to get into an argument with one of the FEW friends I have. As I said, if she does it again, I do plan to call her out.

Then what is your question?!?

[Anonymous]

There are tons of threads on this. Do a search.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I said I agreed with what she said, I could understand you guys calling me a troll.

I didn’t say anything because I was uncomfortable and didn’t want to get into an argument with one of the FEW friends I have. As I said, if she does it again, I do plan to call her out.

Then what is your question?!?

Read the title of my thread, genius

[Anonymous]

Oh come on, Joanne, you can’t lump all Indians or all anyone into a group.

Unless she’s completely clueless, she will get it.

[Anonymous]

"Are you serious? Do a lot of people in Switzerland feel this way about Indians? I didn't know there were a lot of black or brown people there anyway, outside of Geneva of course. Is this the cosmopolitan complaint over there? Wow?"

"Want some of my fries?" Turns up radio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
"Are you serious? Do a lot of people in Switzerland feel this way about Indians? I didn't know there were a lot of black or brown people there anyway, outside of Geneva of course. Is this the cosmopolitan complaint over there? Wow?"

"Want some of my fries?" Turns up radio.

Well, I didn’t know the fries were for me until after her rant. I just added that in to allude to her being a good friend outside of her disgusting rant.

[Anonymous]

Depends on where the fries were from

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on where the fries were from

Grow up

[Anonymous]

It's hard when you're stuck in the car with them.
If it's a group of people, I'll just walk away.
I've called out a friend who said racist things about black people to me but it didn't change her views. Now I just say, let's talk about something else.

[Anonymous]

I had similar issue with a close friend, where I'd be bothered by what she says but she had no idea. I decided I had to say something at the moment or I will feel bad afterwards and probably distance myself from the friendship. It's hard to do at the moment, but I try to call the person out on it quickly and change the subject. (Eg "All one billion Indian people are ALL like that? Anyway, what is new on netflix?")