Asking other parents about next year AAP or not

[Anonymous]

My DC has made good friends with few kids in 2nd grade class. Parents are barely acquaintances or I haven’t met other kids parents. It’s very likely DC will be accepted to AAP which means moving to center school. Would be nice if some friends from 2nd would also be going to the center school. Not sure how to ask/ find out without the other parent possibly getting offended or upset. Any constructive suggestions besides just waiting until school starts in the fall?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC has made good friends with few kids in 2nd grade class. Parents are barely acquaintances or I haven’t met other kids parents. It’s very likely DC will be accepted to AAP which means moving to center school. Would be nice if some friends from 2nd would also be going to the center school. Not sure how to ask/ find out without the other parent possibly getting offended or upset. Any constructive suggestions besides just waiting until school starts in the fall?

You will see those parents in the open house in April.

[Anonymous]

You seem very confident that your child will make it. Good for you. Reading on this board makes me think that even with high scores and all, you can't relax and be totally confident about your eligibility because unfortunate surprises do happen. Will find out the results in 2 weeks but I can't seem to relax.

[Anonymous]

See who you see at open house. Besides that? Your kid might know which of her friends are changing schools.

No. You can’t go around asking parents.

[Anonymous]

Do not ask. i have one in AAP and younger not. I was amazed at all the people that asked me with first and with second. Especially awkward with 2nd not in. What if someone says no? What do you say in reply. Believe it or not people asked me if I would appeal. They didn't even know if I applied for 2 in the first place and not their business. I just said, "base school is best for DC2" over and over.

You just have to wait, and then see who comes to the orientation.

[Anonymous]

Wait for the orientation. No brainer.

[Anonymous]

Your school should have an AAP info session at the beginning of the school year where you may be able to mingle with some parents. It is a touchy subject! I have only discussed AAP with my closest friends and only referring to my own child. Even then I have one friend that gets offended at the topic alone. On the flip side it seems that many parents at my school are not even aware of AAP or the review process.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? It would be nice if I knew who was attending a birthday party but when then invite list is not publically disclosed, do you think it’s appropriate to just ask another if she’s going? Do you want your daughter asking Suzy if she’s also spending the night at ally’s on Saturday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? It would be nice if I knew who was attending a birthday party but when then invite list is not publically disclosed, do you think it’s appropriate to just ask another if she’s going? Do you want your daughter asking Suzy if she’s also spending the night at ally’s on Saturday?

Who’s Suzy and why is she in the ally at night? Whoever posted this none sense...Take. A. Chill. Pill.

[Anonymous]

The kids will talk about it, at least if they really are friends they will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC has made good friends with few kids in 2nd grade class. Parents are barely acquaintances or I haven’t met other kids parents. It’s very likely DC will be accepted to AAP which means moving to center school. Would be nice if some friends from 2nd would also be going to the center school. Not sure how to ask/ find out without the other parent possibly getting offended or upset. Any constructive suggestions besides just waiting until school starts in the fall?

Does it really matter if they were accepted, will it change what you plan to do? Do what you want with your kid, you seem like you just want to know who got in and who didn’t because you’re keeping score. If you genuinely would consider not sending your kid to the center then parents would understand you asking if you frame it that way. Otherwise don’t ask and mind your own kid. Their kids aren’t just play things to accompany your kid.

[Anonymous]

If you don't know the parents well, don't ask. As others said, you'll see who's at the Open House. People can be pretty touchy about the whole thing. I didn't even ask the parents of a kid I wrote a letter of recommendation for. I figured they'd tell me if he got in. In the case of AAP, no news is not good news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? It would be nice if I knew who was attending a birthday party but when then invite list is not publically disclosed, do you think it’s appropriate to just ask another if she’s going? Do you want your daughter asking Suzy if she’s also spending the night at ally’s on Saturday?

Who’s Suzy and why is she in the ally at night? Whoever posted this none sense...Take. A. Chill. Pill.

What are you talkkng about. The réponse made sensé.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not ask. i have one in AAP and younger not. I was amazed at all the people that asked me with first and with second. Especially awkward with 2nd not in. What if someone says no? What do you say in reply. Believe it or not people asked me if I would appeal. They didn't even know if I applied for 2 in the first place and not their business. I just said, "base school is best for DC2" over and over.

You just have to wait, and then see who comes to the orientation.

This makes me laugh — after a previous board where several posters insisted that it was perfectly appropriate conversation with other parents and that parents of non-AAP should be willing to listen to the parents of AAP kids brag about their kids’ acceptance into the program as if they had just cured cancer.

Btw - I happen to agree with the advice above. Touchy subject.