Didn't celebrate hubby's birthday. Should I?

[Anonymous]

My hubby never celebrated birthdays growing up. His family never placed importance on it whatsoever. I on the other hand always celebrated my birthday along with siblings, etc. My hubby knows this so ever since we got together he has always done stuff for my birthday, even though he thinks it's silly to celebrate "yourself". We've been married eight years now and have a kid.

Last weekend, during the major wind storm, was his birthday. I had planned just to do a cake and something small for him at home with our family. But, with the storm I took our daughter and stayed with my parents (who had power) and he stayed at the house (without power). The weekend passed and of course we did nothing for his birthday. Our home didn't have power for two full days. Several days ago I was driving with my kid in the car and out of no where (she's five) she says "Mom, Daddy had a sad birthday". I was a little surprised she was even thinking about it considering several days had passed. Now, I feel guilty for not doing anything. I told him what she said and he sort of smirked and said something like "It's fine. Not a big deal". I know he's never celebrated his birthday, but he's always been supportive of my birthday and our kid's of course.

It's over a week now. Is it stupid to do something?

[Anonymous]

Does he like BJs?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Before anyone asks, the reason he stayed at the house (without power) is because he works late and he wanted to keep an eye on the house in case trees fell down. We have several very large trees near us.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's stupid. I'd tell him "Now that everything has calmed down, let's go out for a belated birthday celebration. Which restaurant do you want to go to?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's stupid. I'd tell him "Now that everything has calmed down, let's go out for a belated birthday celebration. Which restaurant do you want to go to?"

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's stupid. I'd tell him "Now that everything has calmed down, let's go out for a belated birthday celebration. Which restaurant do you want to go to?"

+1

+1 and a night of romance of course would make most men happy.

[Anonymous]

Celebrate it! It’s a way you are used to cel enraging someone and showing you care, and it sounds like you want the same habit instilled in your daughter.

[Anonymous]

My son is 6 and takes birthdays seriously. He would be upset if there was no celebration at all for anyone in our family. Even a simple candle in a cupcake would mark the occasion. Can you have your daughter make a card and do something just to mark the occasion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's stupid. I'd tell him "Now that everything has calmed down, let's go out for a belated birthday celebration. Which restaurant do you want to go to?"

+1

I agree. It’s never too late to celebrate!

[Anonymous]

He sounds really awesome. I vote celebrate too. Ask him what he would like, maybe give him three different choices so he can pick what feels best for him.

[Anonymous]

I also vote a late celebration. Just let him know you hadn't forgotten.

[Anonymous]

Celebrate your husband, OP. It’s not too late.

[Anonymous]

No just do your birthday. It so much more fun important.

[Anonymous]

Of course it's not stupid. Tell him it's really been bothering you that you didn't do anything for his birthday with all of the storm stuff, and you'd like to make up for it now. Even if someone isn't really into celebrating birthdays, that doesn't mean they don't like some kind of acknowledgment to show people care.

[Anonymous]

I think you should work on being consistent if you want to make bdays special. No, it's not too late.