what to say???is he unhappy??

[Anonymous]

hi there,DH is not working today so I took a litle brake from work try to surprise him and caught him in the computer looking at some website called mate 1.com where men find girls and women find men, his first reaction was stay calm and he was trying to close that window very quick bud he couldn't and I stant next to him and I got very, very upset started yelling at him and I left. Do men always try to meet someone new is this ok?Help Im very confused right now. Thanks,

[Anonymous]

This is why we have 2 computers in the family. The "family desktop" and his "porn" laptop.

[Anonymous]

anyone had any success with that website? how about ashleymadison?

[Anonymous]

i dont' know what there is to be confused about. he's not getting what he wants/needs in the marriage, so he's turning elsewhere. time to own up to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i dont' know what there is to be confused about. he's not getting what he wants/needs in the marriage, so he's turning elsewhere. time to own up to it.

not necessarily, perhaps he was just curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i dont' know what there is to be confused about. he's not getting what he wants/needs in the marriage, so he's turning elsewhere. time to own up to it.

I think that's one conclusion. Another conclusion is that he was curious, which human beings often are. The only way you will find out, OP, is by talking to him. Let him know that right now you are feeling a loss of trust, and he needs to focus on your damaged sense of trust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i dont' know what there is to be confused about. he's not getting what he wants/needs in the marriage, so he's turning elsewhere. time to own up to it.

I think that's one conclusion. Another conclusion is that he was curious, which human beings often are. The only way you will find out, OP, is by talking to him. Let him know that right now you are feeling a loss of trust, and he needs to focus on your damaged sense of trust.

than you I guess u are right he was just curious because he's not to used to spent time in a computer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i dont' know what there is to be confused about. he's not getting what he wants/needs in the marriage, so he's turning elsewhere. time to own up to it.

thanks but he's getting everything he wants and needs, that's why I'm confused???

not necessarily, perhaps he was just curious.

[Anonymous]

How do you know OP?
Did you ask him if he's happy? or you're just assuming?
Time to sit and have THE TALK... sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hi there,DH is not working today so I took a litle brake from work try to surprise him and caught him in the computer looking at some website called mate 1.com where men find girls and women find men, his first reaction was stay calm and he was trying to close that window very quick bud he couldn't and I stant next to him and I got very, very upset started yelling at him and I left. Do men always try to meet someone new is this ok?Help Im very confused right now. Thanks,

crazy bride?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hi there,DH is not working today so I took a litle brake from work try to surprise him and caught him in the computer looking at some website called mate 1.com where men find girls and women find men, his first reaction was stay calm and he was trying to close that window very quick bud he couldn't and I stant next to him and I got very, very upset started yelling at him and I left. Do men always try to meet someone new is this ok?Help Im very confused right now. Thanks,

crazy bride?

I am thinking yes...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hi there,DH is not working today so I took a litle brake from work try to surprise him and caught him in the computer looking at some website called mate 1.com where men find girls and women find men, his first reaction was stay calm and he was trying to close that window very quick bud he couldn't and I stant next to him and I got very, very upset started yelling at him and I left. Do men always try to meet someone new is this ok?Help Im very confused right now. Thanks,

this is not ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i dont' know what there is to be confused about. he's not getting what he wants/needs in the marriage, so he's turning elsewhere. time to own up to it.

I think that's one conclusion. Another conclusion is that he was curious, which human beings often are. The only way you will find out, OP, is by talking to him. Let him know that right now you are feeling a loss of trust, and he needs to focus on your damaged sense of trust.

A third, more likely possibility is that he's an a$$hole.

[Anonymous]

He might be telling the truth...can you check the history files on the computer? What he told you was true, it's happened to me.

By checking the history files, you'll know if he's telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care if my husband occasionally looked at porn, but he was on a website that was for meeting people, that I would be concerned about. You have to talk to him about it. But if he's anything like the guy I dated who was actually addicted to porn, that's going to be a tough battle if you don't want him looking at it. If he's addicted to porn, it has nothing to do with you and what you are providing at home.