DH and I are separating, and I want to go out tonight - help me find people to go out with

[Anonymous]

DH and I are separating and I want to go out. Just to a bar, or dancing, or something. I'm 35 with 2 kids, and I want to feel young and attractive, but not scout for men or anything.

The problem is, my closest girlfriends don't live in DC, and the girlfriends I do have here are all married with kids; I highly suspect they don't want to go out, and I also don't yet feel comfortable telling them DH and I are separating, especially since we are friends with them as "couples," so DH has a relationship with the husband as well.

What to do? I just need a woman or two by my side so I am not alone on the town, perhaps someone in a similar position as me (or recently divorced and dating; I can be a good wing-woman). Any recommendations for a meet up or something? From the looks of DCUM, there must be plenty of women in the DC area looking for the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Where do you live? In a similar situation, only all my girls are married. I find it’s best to sometimes just go and plop Dorn alone at a festive restaurant, karaoke bar, upscale bar in an area where there are singles for nights like this. It feels wack getting dressed and going out alone, but that is part of the excitement. I have had great conversations with women, men, bartenders, etc and it’s a nice respite sometimes. Until you’re ready (and available) to actively engage with new friendships and relationships, doing something similar may work for you too. Try a themed bar or restaurant. You may have to travel to an area that attracts more singles vs suburbanite couples.

[Anonymous]

When I separated, I went out alone. I didn't need company to have fun.

[Anonymous]

PP again. Hey, maybe you should start a local meetup group targeted for women just like us. IF I saw it, I would join! That’s really the only way to find people with similar interests. Or start making some new single girlfriends to kick it with from time to time (which is tough, and they’re in a completely different mental space from our situation so I wouldn’t recommend that as a 1st or 2nd choice).

[Anonymous]

I live in Arlington but I don't know what the Arlington scene is like, I assume actual DC is better.

Any recommendations for places to go?

Also, I will look into meet up right now and see if I can start a group. Sometimes there are so many groups and they all look so empty (or sometimes, so full, but with no activities), it's a little underwhelming, so I feel weird starting a new one.

[Roar]

OP: Re-kindle interests squashed during relationships. I love State Theatre & Tally Ho for tribute bands. Your joyful energy will feed others. Unshackled now find your soundtrack and the Hallmark Channel movie will soon follow.

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone.

I started a meetup, but it's kind of more involved than I first realized, I did a crappy job. It's called Women Going Out, and I did it in DC. I have to update it later with more info and stuff. I didn't know you have to pay to start one, but whatever, my DH can pay for this crap.

For those who go out alone, where did you go? I mean, really, can you give names of places? I want to feel comfortable doing something like that, I've just never done it before. I've gone out to eat alone, but never a bar or anything. I'm ready to do it, I just don't want to choose the wrong place.

[Anonymous]

Also, FYI, I think they have to review my meetup or something first, so it won't be up there for a while.

[Anonymous]

OP - why don’t you create an email address and post it here. Sounds like at 1 or 2 people might be interested in this and reach out to you.

[Anonymous]

I can't go out tonight, as I have DD, but I can do some happy hours! I work in Arlington.

[Anonymous]

if you focused more energy on fixing yourself and your marriage and less on "going out", you might be successful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - why don’t you create an email address and post it here. Sounds like at 1 or 2 people might be interested in this and reach out to you.

I think this is a good idea. I can't tonight, but would love to meet up at some point in the future!

[Anonymous]

I'm married but my DH rarely wants to go out. I'd love to meet up once in a while as most of my Mom friends don't like going out either. I'm in Bethesda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - why don’t you create an email address and post it here. Sounds like at 1 or 2 people might be interested in this and reach out to you.

I think this is a good idea. I can't tonight, but would love to meet up at some point in the future!

Me three. I’m a good wing woman. I live near Arlington. The bar scene in Clarendon is too young for me (36yo) but I enjoy U Street, Wharf, H street for random pop-ins when I have a sitter or DH has visitation. I’ll look for your group OP. You’ll at least have one!

- Self Assigned DCUM ID 005 :^)

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I forgot to mention places I’ve been without issue. What time are you planning on being out? Earlier or later? Different places ebb and flow. A few that come to mind are state of the Union (cap hill), Ben’s Next Door (u st), POV (Penn qtr), The Brighton (Wharf), busboys and poets ( Chinatown) has a bar area books music food and is open until about 1 I think. But it’s a decent energy with music. Super bowl weekend so a lot of places will be energetic tomorrow though I won’t be out then. Not sure if I could get a sitter tonight but I’d be up for a meetup.