Husband seems to have no clue

[Anonymous]

Husband agreed I could practice a 13 min long presentation with him. About three minutes in, he takes a call from his son. Fair enough, you don’t know if there’s an emergency. Kid wants dad to buy him something or other. Husband says he can’t talk now and says he’ll call back in a few minutes l. I start rehearsal again. Phone rings. Husband answers. Quick conversation about this item. Husband hangs up. I resume. Phone rings. Husband answers. More chat about this item. Now I’m upset. This is rude and I tell him so. He grabs car keys to go buy his son the item.

I waited until tonight to explain why I’m upset. Would he do this at work in front of his boss? No. Why would this be an ok way to treat me?

Husband says his favorite line: I’m sorry if I upset you. You would do the same if your son phoned you. (And I would answer the first time. Then if it were a case of him wanting me to buy him something, I’d mute the line and call him back in 15 mins.)

I really feel angry at how little he cares about me.

[Anonymous]

How old is this kid? I understand why you're upset but I'd also be bothered that your husband's son can call incessantly and demand things and he runs out and buys them. That's not a healthy dynamic.

"I'm sorry if I upset you" is not an apology. If that's his favorite line, that sucks.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it was rude, unless it was somehow legitimately urgent. Maybe they were running out of stock in the item and a decision had to be made quickly? Aside from that, it does seem disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Ask that phones be muted/turned off before presentation time. Establish ground rules.

[Anonymous]

If this were a DH asking a DW to ignore calls from a child DCUM would lose its mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband agreed I could practice a 13 min long presentation with him. About three minutes in, he takes a call from his son. Fair enough, you don’t know if there’s an emergency. Kid wants dad to buy him something or other. Husband says he can’t talk now and says he’ll call back in a few minutes l. I start rehearsal again. Phone rings. Husband answers. Quick conversation about this item. Husband hangs up. I resume. Phone rings. Husband answers. More chat about this item. Now I’m upset. This is rude and I tell him so. He grabs car keys to go buy his son the item.

I waited until tonight to explain why I’m upset. Would he do this at work in front of his boss? No. Why would this be an ok way to treat me?

Husband says his favorite line: I’m sorry if I upset you. You would do the same if your son phoned you. (And I would answer the first time. Then if it were a case of him wanting me to buy him something, I’d mute the line and call him back in 15 mins.)

I really feel angry at how little he cares about me.

There is your problem. You think you are his boss

[Anonymous]

It was rude. For 13 minutes the kid can wait unless there is an urgent need for a quick response.

[Anonymous]

You sound nuts.

[Anonymous]

Unless he is an incredibly over indulgent father, there must have been a good reason that he did what he did.

Maybe his son needed his dad who doesn't live with him to help him out. Don't you think that takes precedence over you practicing a speech?

In my world my kid comes first over the second spouse.

[Anonymous]

You kidding me, right?
Why didn't you say that you 2 can do this later after 2nd phone call came in. Maybe it was more important than you practicing your presentation. You are clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Husband agreed I could practice a 13 min long presentation with him. About three minutes in, he takes a call from his son. Fair enough, you don’t know if there’s an emergency. Kid wants dad to buy him something or other. Husband says he can’t talk now and says he’ll call back in a few minutes l. I start rehearsal again. Phone rings. Husband answers. Quick conversation about this item. Husband hangs up. I resume. Phone rings. Husband answers. More chat about this item. Now I’m upset. This is rude and I tell him so. He grabs car keys to go buy his son the item.

I waited until tonight to explain why I’m upset. Would he do this at work in front of his boss? No. Why would this be an ok way to treat me?

Husband says his favorite line: I’m sorry if I upset you. You would do the same if your son phoned you. (And I would answer the first time. Then if it were a case of him wanting me to buy him something, I’d mute the line and call him back in 15 mins.)

I really feel angry at how little he cares about me.

There is your problem. You think you are his boss

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless he is an incredibly over indulgent father, there must have been a good reason that he did what he did.

Maybe his son needed his dad who doesn't live with him to help him out. Don't you think that takes precedence over you practicing a speech?

In my world my kid comes first over the second spouse.

Why couldn't you have done the adult thing and.just calmly said "let's do this when you get back."

You are not a ten yewar old kid fighting your step sibling for dad's attention.

(Or maybe you are).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband agreed I could practice a 13 min long presentation with him. About three minutes in, he takes a call from his son. Fair enough, you don’t know if there’s an emergency. Kid wants dad to buy him something or other. Husband says he can’t talk now and says he’ll call back in a few minutes l. I start rehearsal again. Phone rings. Husband answers. Quick conversation about this item. Husband hangs up. I resume. Phone rings. Husband answers. More chat about this item. Now I’m upset. This is rude and I tell him so. He grabs car keys to go buy his son the item.

I waited until tonight to explain why I’m upset. Would he do this at work in front of his boss? No. Why would this be an ok way to treat me?

Husband says his favorite line: I’m sorry if I upset you. You would do the same if your son phoned you. (And I would answer the first time. Then if it were a case of him wanting me to buy him something, I’d mute the line and call him back in 15 mins.)

I really feel angry at how little he cares about me.

I disagree with your parenting style. You should learn from your husband, he has his priorities straight and doesn't seem to be afraid of you.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is a troll. What else could such a loaded and insane post be? if she is for real, she needs therapy. What an immense problem to have!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this were a DH asking a DW to ignore calls from a child DCUM would lose its mind.

Yup.