for those families with long hour working dad, how do you deal with this

[Anonymous]

ds is 4 yr old.
dh works long hour. only come home for dinner on Sunday night and some special vocation: birthday or holiday. others he comes home after ds falls asleep. but actually in the morning I leave for work early, and dh takes care of ds and drops him off at daycare. when he is home, he never did any house hold work, just play with ds.
but ds is still very upset because dh can't come home every day. every day he whines at dinner time because daddy is not coming home.
ds was jumping and kissed me last evening when I told him daddy is coming home for dinner. I asked him why kiss me. he said because I told him this good news.
I feel so upset about this.
ds plays basketball every saturday morning. it is also the time for dh to catch up the whole week sleep. he usually sleeps untill 11am and stay home have lunch with us and go back to his office. one day, on our way home from basketball practice, ds asked me: is daddy going to stay home today? I told him it is not very possible. then the 4 yr old say: maybe, he is too tired to go back to work and he wants to stay home and relax today. I just don't know how to answer this.

the idea of moving to somewhere close to dh work comes to my mind all the time. dh's schedule is actually flexible. before we bought the house and had kid, we used to live close to wherever he works. so he can come home for dinner and go back to work if it is neccessary. but now we need a better neighborhood with ds. so we moved.

[Anonymous]

Bump.

[Anonymous]

there was a posting very similar to this not too long ago. I think it might have been in the "off topic" section