Is she a lesbian?

[Anonymous]

My sister is in her early 40's, attractive and successful. She has never had a serious relationship that lasted beyond a few months. DH says that its because she is a lesbian but is afraid to come out to the family, particularly our parents. How do I know if she won't talk. I don't care and just want her to be happy.

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't want to talk, you can't force her to. But the fact that she's not had a serious relationship (that you know of) does not necessarily mean she's a lesbian, and regardless of her sexuality, it's entirely possible that she is happy not being in a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

very likely. my sister is a lesbian. she's semi-out to the family. but for the most part she doesn't talk about her relationships with anyone except me. she's very beautiful, so it would be unlikely that she's never dated anyone. she just doesn't talk about it. yes, she's dated lots-they've just all been women.

why won't you sister talk to you about her relationships? are you on weird terms?

[Anonymous]

She could be asexual or aromatic?

[Anonymous]

So maybe she has had successful relationships (with other women) she doesn't tell you.

[Anonymous]

Ask her one time and don't overthink about her sexual life! Let her live her life as she wants!!

[Anonymous]

She could be anything, but why should she tell you? Its not your business.

[Anonymous]

If she wanted to talk about it with you, she presumably would have brought it up by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She could be asexual or aromatic?

I knew someone who was aromatic once, helped a lot when he started taking daily showers.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to lift up her left arm. By law all lesbians have to have an identifying tattoo on their left armpit, stating they are gay.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she simply doesn't want to talk about it?

If you care, the best thing you can do is to respect her, love her, and not gossip about her behind her back.