I hate dating apps
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Anonymous
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Feeling really down. So many of my friends have happy, healthy relationships off of Tinder, Bumble, etc. I've tried using these apps and can't make it work. First off, I get cold feet whenever someone actually asks me to meet up. I went on one date off of there, it was bad, and I get nervous and anxious about going on another date. Second, it's SO HARD to feel any chemistry/actually WANT TO meet up with someone after a brief conversation of 'what do you do for a living? what's your favorite color?' etc. It feels like a waste of time to go on date after date like this.
How do other people make this work? |
Anonymous
| Isn't Tinder just for hookups? How do you get a healthy relationship from that? |
Anonymous
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I’ve heard Bumble is mainly for hookups too. In fact, the one Bumble date I went on, when I refused his offer to drive me home after some creepy touching, he told me Bumble wasn’t for me.
Maybe find a different dating app? |
Anonymous
My fried married a guy she met on Tinder. I think it is primarily for hookups but I think there are also a decent number of ppl just looking for connection. OP, I wonder if you need to go on an additional date with ppl you meet on there since it may be hard to assess chemistry on your first dates because you are so uncomfortable meeting up with people from the internet. |
Anonymous
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Screen better; message more but not too much more—texting chemistry doesn’t translate into real life chemistry.
And mostly only agree to something you’re comfortable with time wise. For example, there is no way I’m leaving my immediate neighborhood/areas for a first date because I’m busy and I would be resentful for time spent going somewhere for a failed first date |
Anonymous
My nephew uses Bumble for hookups and most of the messages he receives from women are raunchy. |
Anonymous
| Divorced dad here OP. I understand. The apps are a joke! |
Anonymous
No. My Rabbi met his wife on Tinder. |
Anonymous
| Different divorced dad here. Bumble and Tinder are giving me more dates than I can fit into this holiday weekend. And two of the ladies are 20 years younger than me. |
Anonymous
How did you do that? How old are you? Did you post an extensive and exhausting and/or interesting profile? I tend to think it's a numbers game for men. |
Anonymous
I'm a woman in my 30s and getting lots of barely legal men. It's great. |
Anonymous
| I wish I could get any women at all. Clearly doing something drastically wrong. |
Anonymous
Yes, please tell me more. About to be in same situation not by my choice and prospect of dating again is the one thing that keeps me going. |
Anonymous
They must be desperate. Are they overweight or possibly gamers? |
Anonymous
Nope. They're all hot. Tall and ripped. One was an MMA fighter! |