MIL sending weight loss videos

[Anonymous]

Would you be offended if your MIL sent you weight loss videos if you were 3 months post partum? I’m up 10 lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight (124 lbs instead of 114 lbs, i’m 5’2). I am just pissed off that she sends me garbage (and not even useful garbage. It was a dieting video from India on how to lose 20 lbs in 2 weeks). She also texts me that I need to eat well. I do actually eat decently. Since I can’t tell her to mind her own business in real life, I thought venting to DCUM would make me feel better. My husband doesn’t understand.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you CAN tell her to MYOB. I have a MIL who says inappropriate things, and the second she started to discuss my post-partum weight I told her in no uncertain terms "You are not to discuss my weight or appearance or what I eat with me, at all." She never did again. I am not normally that assertive but I chalk it up to post-partum hormones and sleep deprivation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you CAN tell her to MYOB. I have a MIL who says inappropriate things, and the second she started to discuss my post-partum weight I told her in no uncertain terms "You are not to discuss my weight or appearance or what I eat with me, at all." She never did again. I am not normally that assertive but I chalk it up to post-partum hormones and sleep deprivation

That is not assertive, that was being an ahole. On the bright side the message got through.

[Anonymous]

^^Good for you. I just blocked my MIL from my cell and email. If she has anything to say to me, she has to go through DH.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, but I don't want advice in that area from anyone other than my doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^Good for you. I just blocked my MIL from my cell and email. If she has anything to say to me, she has to go through DH.

I would love to do that. My husband would throw a fit. His mom is perfect and can do no wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^Good for you. I just blocked my MIL from my cell and email. If she has anything to say to me, she has to go through DH.

I would love to do that. My husband would throw a fit. His mom is perfect and can do no wrong.

Well, DH acknowledges that his mother is a terror. It only took years and years of individual and couples' counseling, plus lots of anxiety meds for DH to come to that conclusion.

[Anonymous]

Is she in need of weight loss vides?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^Good for you. I just blocked my MIL from my cell and email. If she has anything to say to me, she has to go through DH.

I would love to do that. My husband would throw a fit. His mom is perfect and can do no wrong.

Is your DH Indian?

[Anonymous]

Start sending her articles about how to be tactful and to mind her own business.

[Anonymous]

"Nancy, the only person I discuss my weight or eating habits with is my doctor. Please do not bring this up again; I will not discuss it with you."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Nancy, the only person I discuss my weight or eating habits with is my doctor. Please do not bring this up again; I will not discuss it with you."

And attach an article on how to be a good mother in law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Nancy, the only person I discuss my weight or eating habits with is my doctor. Please do not bring this up again; I will not discuss it with you."

+1

I think this appropriate because the stuff she is sending does not sound healthy. 20 lbs in 2 weeks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she in need of weight loss vides?

Yes, she would benefit from losing some weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^Good for you. I just blocked my MIL from my cell and email. If she has anything to say to me, she has to go through DH.

I would love to do that. My husband would throw a fit. His mom is perfect and can do no wrong.

Is your DH Indian?

My MIL is from Afghanistan