Best age to get married??

[Anonymous]

My friends back in Nashville all got married before 25-26. In DC, most aren't married or just got married. I am 32 and single. What is the best age to get married in your eyes?

[Anonymous]

I am always envious of people who find the right person for them early in their lives. It seems to give such an advantage.

But it's def. better to marry the right person later than the wrong person earlier.

[Anonymous]

There was a tsunami of marriages amongst my DC friends from 27-30, so I would say then. My friends that married after that either weren't interested in marriage (but eventually met nice husbands) or were desperate and settled. I married at 25, which was young here but it worked for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am always envious of people who find the right person for them early in their lives. It seems to give such an advantage.

But it's def. better to marry the right person later than the wrong person earlier.

I think later the better

[Anonymous]

When you find the right person. I got married at 23 and looking back it wasn't the right decision. You change a lot in your 20s.

[Anonymous]

The age you are when you find your forever mate.

[Anonymous]

Not 23.

And if you do get married at 23, don't finish law school and jump straight into BigLaw in NYC so that you can afford to put your husband through business school. Because he'll graduate near the top of his class ... and then never actually bother to get a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The age you are when you find your forever mate.

+1

I lived in a place where everyone was desperate to find their spouse in college when I was college aged (all the good ones will be taken!!!!) and remember feeling like a failure because there was no one in my life I even wanted a proposal from. Then I moved to a place where that mentality was ruthlessly mocked and everyone waited until they were near 30 to get married. I got married at 34, here.

I can say that of the people who got married in a wave at 21 in my college state, those who got married in the 27-30 wave mentioned above, and those that waited until even later --- there are good marriages and bad. There are divorces out of each bunch, and marriages that look like hell from the outside. There are also people who seem perfect for each other and very happy. Because the age isn't what matters, it's the person.

That said, I'm a little envious of people who found the person earlier, just because it's been so financially advantageous to combine our lives. Sometimes I think of how much further ahead we'd be if we had started 6 years ago down this path. But that's life!

[Anonymous]

The best age is different for everyone. It is when you meet the the right person.

[Anonymous]

26-33

[Anonymous]

28-35

(We married much later, but I think that is the optimal age range.)

[Anonymous]

Late 20s is nice. You still have a few years before you need to think about kids.

[Anonymous]

23-28 if you want kids, older if you don't.

[Anonymous]

I got married at 34....I’d have preferred a few years earlier and starting a family earlier than I did, but while some disadvantages (my kids have no grandparents) it also has advantages (greater patience on my part, career already established and at a point where it can be very flexible for family).

[Anonymous]

25 was absolutely perfect for us. Out of college and had careers but still had plenty of time to enjoy each other without adding kids to the mix.