Did you tell your ex that you are pregnant yet?

[Anonymous]

How did it go?

There was another thread that popped up in the expectant mothers forum where the woman told her BF (who was away for Christmas) and he flipped out, suggested an abortion and ghosted her. Was that you, op?

[Anonymous]

There was another ten page thread before that here that just disappeared one day.

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP of that thread. He texted me on Christmas but I haven't heard from him otherwise. I started spotting a few days ago, which turned into cramping and bleeding heavily, and at the ER it was a diagnosed miscarriage. I haven't let him know but will when he reaches out. Otherwise I haven't reached out to him - and won't. He's now officially a sh**bag in my book.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry for your loss, but maybe it's a good thing that you won't have to be tied to this guy for the rest of your life, now. Good luck in the new year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of that thread. He texted me on Christmas but I haven't heard from him otherwise. I started spotting a few days ago, which turned into cramping and bleeding heavily, and at the ER it was a diagnosed miscarriage. I haven't let him know but will when he reaches out. Otherwise I haven't reached out to him - and won't. He's now officially a sh**bag in my book.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

You are a fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was another ten page thread before that here that just disappeared one day.

Because OP made the whole thing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was another ten page thread before that here that just disappeared one day.

Because OP made the whole thing up.

No. I didn't. I actually just had a miscarriage. Right between Christmas and New Years, with no one to confide in, least of all sh**bag dad, so please go away.

[Anonymous]

Why even tell him anything at this point? He doesn’t need to know. The only reason he needed to know when (if) you were pregnant is because you expected him to be the perfect dad to your unplanned kid. No point at all in mentioning anything now.

[Anonymous]

Oh sorry, I missed that she has already told him. Now gotta go catch up on that thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why even tell him anything at this point? He doesn’t need to know. The only reason he needed to know when (if) you were pregnant is because you expected him to be the perfect dad to your unplanned kid. No point at all in mentioning anything now.

I agree. Op, unfortunately this is your pain to bare alone. The universe fixed what would have likely been 18+ years of your having to refer to him as a sh**tbag.

[Anonymous]

I took pictures of my pregnancy test and have ER paperwork. Not that I give a f*** what he thinks about me, but I need him to know I wasn't lying.

I don't mean this unkindly but you do care what he thinks about you or else you wouldn't need him to know you weren't lying. Be done with the MF and move on. You're better off without him. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Wait I don’t think the miscarriage OP here is the OP we’re looking for. Sounds like the one replying on the thread is the one whose BF ghosted her. We’re looking for the one who didn’t tell her BF yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait I don’t think the miscarriage OP here is the OP we’re looking for. Sounds like the one replying on the thread is the one whose BF ghosted her. We’re looking for the one who didn’t tell her BF yet.

That's the one I was referring to upthread that had the 10+ page thread that disappeared. Wasn't sure if it was the same person though and her telling him was just another development. Never know what to think when a thread just disappears though like maybe Jeff caught someone trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why even tell him anything at this point? He doesn’t need to know. The only reason he needed to know when (if) you were pregnant is because you expected him to be the perfect dad to your unplanned kid. No point at all in mentioning anything now.

I agree. Op, unfortunately this is your pain to bare alone. The universe fixed what would have likely been 18+ years of your having to refer to him as a sh**tbag.

I had a miscarriage and tried to have a talk with the guy after, and he freaked. Wish I would have walked away when you are.... believe me, of they are not mature enough to talk to.you about so.ething like this, you just got the get out of jail free card of a lifetime. Onwards and upwards.

Don't feel bad about truly mourning the little life that you carried, as well as what you might have hoped for this relationship / guy.