Dysfunctional family and STBX: a vent

[Anonymous]

My family keeps urging me to reconcile with my ex. He is/was emotionally abusive, financially controlling, with severe anger issues. He also cheated on me. They keep saying things like "he's not a bad guy" and that they're praying we get back together. I feel like I'm the bad guy here and it hurts. How to handle?

[Anonymous]

"wow, guys, if it wasn't already clear, He is/was emotionally abusive, financially controlling, with severe anger issues. He also cheated on me. Why would I go back to that?? and what does it say about you that you would WANT me to go back to that??" Then make a sad face and shake your head. Also "nope- he's not a bad guy and neither am I".

[Anonymous]

Thanks for sticking up for me mom and dad he was absuive. End of story. We aren't getting back together. I deserve better.

[Anonymous]

"So you are okay with me being with an abusive cheater? That being together is more important than my mental/spiritual health?"

[Anonymous]

I don't have any advice but I'd just like to thank you for keeping your vent brief. Other prospective posters take note.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"wow, guys, if it wasn't already clear, He is/was emotionally abusive, financially controlling, with severe anger issues. He also cheated on me. Why would I go back to that?? and what does it say about you that you would WANT me to go back to that??" Then make a sad face and shake your head. Also "nope- he's not a bad guy and neither am I".

....and I already 'prayed' on it. This is the best decision.