My sister spit in my face
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Anonymous
| I am 21 and my sister is 19. Yesterday I gave her her wrapped Christmas gift and she proceeded to throw it at me. I then unwrap it for her and she asks to see the gift. I said only if you don't throw it and she said "we'll see". She then looks at my gift and then throws it at me. Later I am talking to dad saying if she doesn't want he gift I will give it to a friend. She was brushing her teeth and was rinsing her mouth with water. She comes to me and spits the water in my face and eyes. My sister has anger issues, from slamming doors to throwing a book at me. She has been seeing a psychologist since June. I'm not sure how to handle this. |
Anonymous
| Wow. |
Anonymous
| Stay away until she's better. Hopefully your parents will understand. If they don't, they're a problem, too. |
Anonymous
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It's your sister, so it's only natural to care, but you are too enmeshed in playing by her rules.
Next time you give a gift, leave it at that. Don't engage. Don't unwrap/make ultimatums/or goad her by threatening. Her disgusting behaviour is childlike. She is not your child. Her parents can put a stop to this by having rules at their home. If they decide not to enforce common courtesy, look to make alternate living arrangements, as everyone in this dynamic is part of the problem. |
Anonymous
| You both sound psycho. |
Anonymous
OP here. What did I do? |
Anonymous
| Wasn't there a post last Christmas about a sister spitting in OPs face? Was fake so got deleted. |
Anonymous
OP here. That wasn't me. |
Anonymous
| You're home from college. Go hang out with friends. Watch Tv. Reconsider your writing major. |
Anonymous
This. If she has anger issues and directs them at you, stay away so your presence can't provide fuel for her anger. I wouldn't make a big announcement of this; don't email or text or phone her to say dramatically, "I am staying away from you!" Just say "I can't make it, I have other plans" every time you are told about a gathering where she will be present. if she tends to act better in certain settings--for example, if she seems able to manage herself more acceptably if you're out in public at a restaurant etc.-- you might start seeing her just in situations like that, where you can walk out easily if she acts out. Of course, this all works only if you and she are not living under the same roof. You don't say in the post -- does she live with her parents and you don't? I hope that's the case. If not, you and your parents may need to set some rules about how all of you will respond to her, such as walking away and minimizing contact in the house. But I really hope you don't live there. I would not cut her off if she's getting psychological help. It can take a long time for results to show, unfortunately. Maybe you and ypur parents could consider family counseling with her--? It might help bring to light how her anger affects the rest of you. |
Anonymous
| OP here. My sister lives with me and my parents. Recently I and my friends received a museum voucher from the library we volunteer at and I can bring one other person. I said "______, I received a museum voucher from the library I volunteer at. Would you like to come". She doesn't answer and I say her name again. She doesn't answer so I open the door to her room and she screams "NEXT TIME KNOCK". I decided not to take her to the museum. |
Anonymous
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Why did you open her gift for her? Are her hands broken? That was stupid of you.
And I don't understand in your museum story why you opened her bedroom door without permission. Maybe she didn't respond because she was changing clothes and had a sweater over her head or something. Stop trying. She doesn't appreciate it. |
Anonymous
OP here. She wasn't changing clothes, just laying in bed. If she was changing clothes, she can say she's changing. She didn't want the gift to begin with. |
Anonymous
| OP, stop instigating with your sister. Leave her alone. I don't understand why your parents are allowing you to deliberately antagonize her but I'm telling you right now to stop. |
Anonymous
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OP, stop agitating your sister. Leave her alone. You do your thing, she does hers. You are inviting confrontation, and if you don't see how, that is probably making things worse.
Leave her alone. |