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Anonymous wrote:This thread should give everyone full confidence that the poor youth soccer culture in this country won't be improving anytime soon.
Neurotic parents focused on the wrong things and don't care enough to learn the right things.
Just want to have a say and be heard
You're not even close but I guess that's an easy anecdote. The reality is you need to hate the game, not the players (or their parents). I didn't create this insane web of alphabet soup clubs nor the competitive structure we play in. I didn't create the best path to college recruiting, it was laid long before I got here. My daughter has a dream of playing college soccer. She's a very good 2013, playing up on NPL and Im figuring out what to do for next year. She trapped and its silly she doesn't have the option to play with her classmates but again, this is the game I was given. I'm not asking for change (somebody has to be impacted by RAE and my kid is good enough to overcome it) but if change is coming it's ideally this year. I'd hate for her to go ECNL and fall in love with a team for one season, only to switch everything around. My concern isn't making a team, its being on a top 10 national team and seeing it fall apart when we reshuffle.
Call me neurotic if its easier for you. Im doing what I can to learn this system and help my kid in every way possible for her future. I'd love a simpler, more easy going system but apprentely thats not an option in my area.
No need to worry if your child is on a top 10 national team. Any reshuffle (especially a slight age change by a few months only) will not change anything for teams at that level so he or she should definitely not be concerned about that.
I'm not worried at all. My daughter will end up where she should. But the dirty secret here is that putting her on a team with 2014's is gift. She'll then be playing with a top 10 national club AND she'll be one of the best in that age bracket, which comes with exposure opportunities and invites she wouldn't have otherwise. Again, didn't request the gift but not going to turn it down either.
Lots of discussion on here about 'don't worry, your kid will make the team if they are good enough'. Trapped players at high level aren't concerned with making the team. They are worried about being first team regionals vs second team. They are worried about power 5 schools coming by their showcase vs lower level D1. When you get to that level and know how things work its a different experience to be on the team vs best in a competitive region.
Confused. Thought you were talking about a top 10 national team - not regional level teams. If its a top 10 national team that isn’t a concern.
You definitely
ARE confused so I'll help you out.
First off you need to get out of rec league and join ECNL. That's just the beginning...in ECNL there are rankings. Just because you're on a top ten team doesn't mean you play. Just because you play, doesn't mean you are top 5 on a team. Just being on a top 10 team isn't some magic bullet for anything. Doesn't mean your automatically making the national team. Doesn't mean you're automatically getting recruited and definitely doesn't mean you're going power 5 or getting a scholarship. There are levels on top of levels so stop assuming what you want is what everyone wants.
You don't care about trapped players because you're have limited goals. My daughter will get on a team. What the move to SY means is she's not only on a team, she's likely now the best on the team. What does that mean? Things you probably never heard of. All conference, national selection, select team, national camps...do some research. Maybe what a concern is for you isn't what my daughter is thinking about at all. If your kids dream is to make a top team and you can, great. Have fun. Some of us are impacted far beyond making the team or getting playing time and we'd like to get with the team we'll play with through HS and not wait 2 years to get settled.
Not sure if what you said is true or not, but you definitely have a middle-life crisis.
Lol. If only you understood how elite level soccer for girls works in this country. You don't just show up to rec league and run fast, then UNC comes knocking on your door. Trust me I get the insanity of it all. But if your daughter wants to go Power 5 and you think you're going to act above it all and just encourage to have fun and hope for the best you're delusional. I didn't make these rules and if you have no interest in learning, good luck!
Are you the one with the 5th grader? I find it hard to believe your daughter (not you) is already expressing such a high interest in playing soccer for Power 5 school. Sounds like you have been feeding her that idea. That's a lot of pressure on her whether or not you think you are "helping".
A young woman in my family (through marriage) was an outstanding soccer player. She committed to a Power 5 school that was in the top 10 nationally. Apparently it was a big deal locally when she made her college decision. Guess what? She quit her freshman year and refuses to even talk about soccer now. Just got burned out from all the time spent on one thing and all the attention/pressure. She thought it was her dream to play at that level, but it just wasn't what she wanted for her life once she got there.
I sincerely hope you are prepared to be supportive of your daughter if she woke up tomorrow, or 5 years from now, and says she doesn't want to play anymore. You can tell yourself this level of parental involvement is "necessary", but really consider who cares about this more. You should never care more than your child. It doesn't work in the long run.