Parent buying their kids xmas presents in someone else's name - what do you think?
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Anonymous
| One of my siblings said they're putting a couple presents under the tree "from me" (that they bought) so that their child feels valued, because my one $20 present isn't enough. What would you think of this? FYI this is in a pretty big family - lots of aunts/uncles, and lots of cousins. |
Anonymous
| obnoxious and rude |
Anonymous
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How offensive. |
Anonymous
| Offensive, and why wouldn't a 20 dollar gift from an aunt or uncle be good enough? |
Anonymous
| Pretty f-ing rude. |
Anonymous
| So weird-that poor kid! |
Anonymous
| That is really strange and a little offensive. |
Anonymous
| Well, how did you respond? |
Anonymous
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Rude and unnecessary. I certainly never expected more than a single gift from my aunts and uncles.
I'd be tempted to respond that I'm sorry to hear that their child equates material gifts with being loved and valued. |
Anonymous
| They are raising a homemade brat. |
Anonymous
Is the bolded what your sibling said, or is this how you interpreted it? |
Anonymous
| I buy my kids presents in my parents' name because my parents can't be bothered, so I don't see anything wrong with it in theory, but not in the scenario you described where you're already buying the kid a gift. |
Anonymous
What would the explanation be, otherwise? |
Anonymous
| That’s weird. My MIL always tries to sign her packages from “Santa” despite multiple reminders that Santa doesn’t come to her house, only our house. Santa only brings one present for each kid at our house too. Adults get credit for the things they buy. |
Anonymous
| Is this trauma based? Still rude, but it may be an explanation. |