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Anonymous
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My husband's job is on the line.
I don't have any female friends that I can talk to. I have four kids who need me to be there for them and I just fake my happiness. I'm so depressed. Mostly because I have no great female relationships. I'm not sure why women blow me off (men never do...don't get me wrong, I'm happily married). Men don't play games the way alot of the women do...at least that's my experience. Any thoughts out there? |
Anonymous
| I'm very sorry about your husband's job. We're in the same spot. And I long ago realized that all these dinners and parties that we attend are with and for people that really won't be there for us when the chips are down. DC is just a tough town if you don't have family or life-long friends close by. Thankfully, you have your children. That's where I've decided to invest my time lately instead of the cocktail circuit. As for female companionship and understanding, I depend on lots of long distance calls. |
Anonymous
OP where do you live? Let's get coffee! |
Anonymous
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mclean
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Anonymous
| Thanks guys. It's crazy. I just don't understand it. I'm really there for my friends. I care. I've been through alot in my life and realize what is REAL But so few people that I come across see what is real. They get seduced by material things, looks, style...but they don't realize what really counts. Do you ever wonder why Hollywood has so many issues? I have a friend in London who just had brain surgery. Life counts. Being there for others counts. Being honest counts. Forgiving counts. Enjoying a good glass of wine and cheese without pretense, that counts! Where are those people who really live life without letting their insecurities get the best of them? |
Anonymous
I have a friend that joined an adult kickball team and is having a blast. Once a week they play kickball, then go out for drinks. She has met some different people and very cool people. It doesn't have to bee kickball, but have you thought of just joining a team or organization of some sort. |
Anonymous
| I play kickball and met some of my clostest friends there! |
Anonymous
| Try joining a house of worship. I've found many nice, down-to-earth people at my church. |
Anonymous
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I would like some more female friends in the area, too.
I'm not sure that it's so much a problem of some people being too shallow to be good friends. Our society has just become so stratified. It's is hard to meet people. Especially when you are busy with work and family. It's just very, very hard. You have to work at it, and I think a lot of us are just too exhausted to work at something else. I thought I might meet some interesting new people by joining a book club. So I decided to give the Fascinating History one a shot, since I don't know that much about history. Anyway, I read this huge tome about the Revolutionary War and actually found it -- well -- fascinating(!) -- but when the time came for the meeting (a Thursday at 7:30), I was just too tired to pick myself up and go. I've often thought that people could find friends here, but for the very strong preference for anonymity. Given that, this place is a sounding board and a place to gather information and some support, but no more. Just a bunch of words. Dust in the wind. |
Anonymous
| You don't find friends, you MAKE friends. It requires effort on your part -- they won't just fall into your lap. |
Anonymous
| To OP: I'm in McLean too. We don't have family in the area, though I've managed to make a couple of good friends over the past few years. Agree that it's a challenging area for making sincere friendships. I'd love to extend my circle of female friends - let me know if you're interested. |