Friends with Benefits or Affair?

[Anonymous]

He’s married. I’m not. We’ve had sex eight times/one BJ. Text, snap, FT/call on the regular. He doesn’t agree this would be defined as an affair and that I’m his mistress. I say his wife would think differently. I say that friends with benefits are between two single adults.

What say you?

[Anonymous]

Six of one, half dozen of the other. Homewrecker.

[Anonymous]

unclear why this matters to either of you but he's a cheater and he is cheating on his wife and you are an other woman. Maybe those are the more appropriate labels to apply.

[Anonymous]

Wut? Of course it's an affair. What do YOU think, OP?

[Anonymous]

You want it to be an affair because then he's the bad guy and you're the duped/blinded-by-love mistress.

He wants it to be FWB because then its harmless and you have no expectations and the focus is on the fact that it's consensual.

It doesn't matter what you call it, you're both dirtbags, and a dirtbag by any other name would smell as rank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s married. I’m not. We’ve had sex eight times/one BJ. Text, snap, FT/call on the regular. He doesn’t agree this would be defined as an affair and that I’m his mistress. I say his wife would think differently. I say that friends with benefits are between two single adults.

What say you?

You are right. His refusal to label it that way says as much about him as his willingness to cheat in the first place.

You should cut him off and stop sleeping with married men.

[Anonymous]

Regardless if you are the mistress or FWB, he is still cheating on his wife. I would ask her if it made a difference if he was f*cking his mistress or his FWB.

And you need to figure out why as a single person this POS is what you are willing to settle for.

[Anonymous]

Affair. But you knew that.

[Anonymous]

Sit down with him and his wife and discuss...

[Anonymous]

Being a mistress is akin to being a girlfriend. He don’t want to claim you as a girlfriend, only a girl he’s f***ing. In other words, he doesn’t consider this a relationship. You’re being used (but you probably know that already too).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a mistress is akin to being a girlfriend. He don’t want to claim you as a girlfriend, only a girl he’s f***ing. In other words, he doesn’t consider this a relationship. You’re being used (but you probably know that already too).

+1 He doesn't want you to expect dates, presents, or a pied-à-terre.

[Anonymous]

OP, you love the feeling of having tawdry, naughty sex - makes the experience so much hotter for you, right? that's why you need to have this labeled as an affair, to keep the dangerous and explicit nature of the sexual chemistry burning strong.

[Anonymous]

The only POS is the husband. The other woman is just there for the benefits, whatever they may be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s married. I’m not. We’ve had sex eight times/one BJ. Text, snap, FT/call on the regular. He doesn’t agree this would be defined as an affair and that I’m his mistress. I say his wife would think differently. I say that friends with benefits are between two single adults.

What say you?

Well what in holy hell... Just for fun, ask him how he defines an affair if this is not. Of course not is an affair. And the texts, calls, FT are sure to get you busted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s married. I’m not. We’ve had sex eight times/one BJ. Text, snap, FT/call on the regular. He doesn’t agree this would be defined as an affair and that I’m his mistress. I say his wife would think differently. I say that friends with benefits are between two single adults.

What say you?

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