Teacher put hands on my child in anger.

[Anonymous]

Received a surprising call from the principal today. My son's (6yo, ADHD, IEP in progress, MCPS) homeroom teacher witnessed another teacher put her hands on my son out of anger. Apparently, my son was interrupting this teacher and she squeezed my son's chin/cheeks between her middle finger and thumb to stop his mouth from being able to move. This happened in front of his classmates. He was not hurt, but embarrassed. Homeroom teacher intervened. Principal had him checked out by the nurse (all was fine) and called me, saying very little other than the facts of what happened and that there was protocol in place for situations like this and that the school would follow it. Prior to today, this is a teacher DS really liked and a special that he very much looked forward to each week. I'm so grateful for his amazing homeroom teacher, but absolutely shocked that this happened. How would you proceed in my shoes?

[Anonymous]

I'd talk to your child about it and let the school handle it. I'm impressed they told you. Great homeroom teacher. She's a keeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your child about it and let the school handle it. I'm impressed they told you. Great homeroom teacher. She's a keeper.

Ask the school how they'll handle it.

Squeezing a kid's face seems vindictive.

[Anonymous]

They need to report it to CPS because they are mandated reporters. It is doubtful your child is the first child she has touched. I would call CPS and report it too. That teacher can absolutely not be allowed to ever teach. Your child will most likely get interviewed by a social worker.

[Anonymous]

That teacher needs to apologize to DS. She needs to say "I was wrong to touch your face. I should not have done that. I'm sorry I did that to you. I was wrong."

He will say "It's okay!" and they will move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They need to report it to CPS because they are mandated reporters. It is doubtful your child is the first child she has touched. I would call CPS and report it too. That teacher can absolutely not be allowed to ever teach. Your child will most likely get interviewed by a social worker.

This post sounds a bit over the top. All of it.

[Anonymous]

Nope. They are mandated reporters to CPS. They are supposed to call CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That teacher needs to apologize to DS. She needs to say "I was wrong to touch your face. I should not have done that. I'm sorry I did that to you. I was wrong."

He will say "It's okay!" and they will move on.

Yup. Sounds like an old-fashioned teacher, not necessarily a perverted abuser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That teacher needs to apologize to DS. She needs to say "I was wrong to touch your face. I should not have done that. I'm sorry I did that to you. I was wrong."

He will say "It's okay!" and they will move on.

Yup. Sounds like an old-fashioned teacher, not necessarily a perverted abuser.

Yep. I was a terrible kid and a terrible student. My first grade teacher hated me and used to grab my arm and drag me out of the classroom screaming at me, and leave me in the hall, regularly. I hated her but whatever. I only got upset when my mom and i ran into her at the supermarket and she was NICE to my mother, because why didn't she show her true mean and bitchy self to my mother?

Despite being a delicate and sensitive flower, I did not become afraid of school. I graduated on time, and went on to eventually become a productive member of society. Now that I am an older delicate and sensitive flower I know how to not allow people to treat me that way.

OP's son is FINE. It was three seconds, life moved on, he wasn't permanently damaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They need to report it to CPS because they are mandated reporters. It is doubtful your child is the first child she has touched. I would call CPS and report it too. That teacher can absolutely not be allowed to ever teach. Your child will most likely get interviewed by a social worker.

This.

Both teachers can and should be investigated in this case. One for putting her hands on the child. The other for not reporting the first.

—MCPS teacher.

[Anonymous]

WTF is wrong with some of you? You think it is "old fashioned" and "ok" for a teacher to grab a student's face when he interrupts her? That is behavior normal people wouldn't allow in a 2 year old.

OP you are perfectly justified in calling CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is wrong with some of you? You think it is "old fashioned" and "ok" for a teacher to grab a student's face when he interrupts her? That is behavior normal people wouldn't allow in a 2 year old.

OP you are perfectly justified in calling CPS.

Yes, call CPS on the teacher you bunch of snowflakes. Kids experienced much worse in the 60s and 70s. No need to coddle them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is wrong with some of you? You think it is "old fashioned" and "ok" for a teacher to grab a student's face when he interrupts her? That is behavior normal people wouldn't allow in a 2 year old.

OP you are perfectly justified in calling CPS.

It is not ok, but I wouldn't say it is a reason for the teacher never to teach ever again.

[Anonymous]

I had a teacher like that in Pre-School! She would pinch me and put me out in the cold hallway when I wouldn't nap. Wouldn't take me on field trips.
She was so mean but when we saw her in public she tried to be nice. Back then teachers could hit your knuckles with rulers and principals could paddle you with your parent's consent. The child wasn't injured, no marks were left and the teacher was reprimanded. Next time the classroom teacher should intervene BEFORE it escalates to that point. Obviously this person was frustrated and needed to walk away to calm down.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That teacher needs to apologize to DS. She needs to say "I was wrong to touch your face. I should not have done that. I'm sorry I did that to you. I was wrong."

He will say "It's okay!" and they will move on.

Yup. Sounds like an old-fashioned teacher, not necessarily a perverted abuser.

Yep. I was a terrible kid and a terrible student. My first grade teacher hated me and used to grab my arm and drag me out of the classroom screaming at me, and leave me in the hall, regularly. I hated her but whatever. I only got upset when my mom and i ran into her at the supermarket and she was NICE to my mother, because why didn't she show her true mean and bitchy self to my mother?

Despite being a delicate and sensitive flower, I did not become afraid of school. I graduated on time, and went on to eventually become a productive member of society. Now that I am an older delicate and sensitive flower I know how to not allow people to treat me that way.

OP's son is FINE. It was three seconds, life moved on, he wasn't permanently damaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. They are mandated reporters to CPS. They are supposed to call CPS.

I don't think you understand what type of information you are required to report. This does not fall into that category by any stretch.

/Mandated Reporter