Husband losing interest in me
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Anonymous
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We have been married for 15 years, 1 kid. I am not overweight, stay fit, and am reasonably attractive. However, I feel like DH is losing interest in me - he is only responsive about 1/2 of the times I suggest we have sex, and I suspect some of those times are out of obligation (I suggest it about once a week). I am sure he is not having an affair because he doesn't go out in the evenings and has a full time office job during the day. It seems like his main interests in life are obsessing about DS's travel soccer team and watching television (which is fine, I guess).
I guess what I am trying to find out is whether, on some level, it is normal that people lose sexual interest in each other to a degree after they have been together for a long time, or whether there is a serious problem here. |
Anonymous
| is the sex lame? |
Anonymous
| Do the 180 |
Anonymous
| How old is he? |
Anonymous
| He's 42. Sex is mediocre but not bad. |
Anonymous
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Why is it mediocre?
Mix things up. Sext him about doing something new and exciting, or something you haven't done in a while. |
Anonymous
I don't want to be explicit but he only likes one position which, while fun, gets repetitive. |
Anonymous
| He doesn't like 3rd base? |
Anonymous
| I expect he's masturbating to porn. That's OK, but he's overdoing it and needs to save more for you. |
Anonymous
If that's the issue, he's clearly overdoing it if he can't be there for his wife once a week. I doubt it's the issue... -a man not much younger than op's dh |
Anonymous
| OP here. Well, I'm not sure what the issue is then. I guess my personality can be a little boring - I'm sort of overly focused on my work and DS's school - but I'm not ugly, or mean, or overly nagging. |
Anonymous
| Masturbate shamelessly in bed next to him. Wear lingerie |
Anonymous
| Marriage ebbs and flows and you have to be able to ride out the valleys. You want to spark things a little? Show up at his office looking professional in your buttoned up raincoat, close the door, lock it and reveal that the only thing under your coat was a string of pearls. That's cliche and not for everyone but if you can do something unexpected, you might be able to flip his switch. |
Anonymous
What would he say about the sex with you? Women are really bad in bed...maybe he is just tired of bad sex? |
Anonymous
| Don't make it about you, Op. Why would you make it about you? His needs are different than they use to be .. that's it, that's all. |