Indulge me- better to be youngest or oldest in aap or doesn’t matter?
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I have a 4 year old who is academically advanced but socially immature, and has a late September birthday. Dh and I are looking into various options for next year including public k, private k and redoing pre k for social reasons. We have 2 older children in aap (I mention this so that nobody writes but your child is only 4 how do you know?), and both scored in the 99th percentile in cogat and nnat. Our 3rd child seems to be the brightest.
Is anyone’s young aap student finding it hard socially? Is it easier to find friends as an older kid in the class? My number 1 concern with k placement is whether or not she will find friends. She is not socially awkward just immature. Thoughts? The danger with redshirting is she may be miserable academically. It is a tough call. |
Anonymous
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I honestly can't believe you would consider redshirting if you already think AAP is needed.
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| Send her. |
Anonymous
Every child is unique, no point, looking for advice on public forum! Decide with your spouse, what is best for your child. Social behavior can change once child starts school and sits with 20 other kids everyday. Scores of your other children has no bearing on your youngest one! Lot of factors affect the child performance on day of the exam. |
Anonymous
| We have a Sept birthday daughter. We had similar concerns. We started her on time and she is now in 5th grade AAP. I honestly can't imagine her in the lower grade (both academically and socially). My advice would be to start your daughter on time. |
Anonymous
| Had a kid at each end of birthday spectrum and sent them at the appropriate time. They are mid to late teens and I would say it doesn't matter a bit although in terms of academics/end results but that said, if our DS had an "early" birthday, I probably would have waited a year just because they seem to need it. |
Anonymous
| I ask you to consider this question...what are the advantages of possibly being one of the youngest and smallest students in a grade? |
Anonymous
| I have a very late Sept daughter, who is also 30% size range. We sent her on time and she’s in AAP with an awesome group of friends. She would have been miserable with a younger cohort. At times, she’s frustrated by her relative size/age, but she gets over it quickly. You know your daughter best. |
Anonymous
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This post really grates at me. Send your child "on time!" You have absolutely no reason to hold her back. And, yes, that's what you're doing.....let's stop using the term "redshirting" and call it what it is.
- Mom of a Sept-born boy in AAP, NOT HELD BACK |
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Less bored academically than they would be if held back (which is #1) Who is to say they'd be tall in the later grade - maybe they will always be short and I wouldn't make academic decisions on height. They learn from the older kids - I have a young for the grade kid in AAP. I think DC1 has learned a lot of grit - even compared to DC1's younger sibling who is "older" for the grade and at times gets frustrated when things don't come so easy (because many things do come easy). DC1 has never been afraid of a challenge. |
Anonymous
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Op here thanks for those who responded.
I guess I’m worried bc I know she will be miserable as the youngest at least at first. She is overly emotional and cries easily, she is an introvert, and she doesn’t stand up for herself, the long day would be tough on her, she doesn’t seem to have many friends- all valid reasons not to start her “on time” and give her a year to develop social skills. But it is good to hear that the younger ones seem to have caught up socially. |
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| OP, my oldest is an March birthday so this was never a question for me but he seemed very behind socially to me in preschool and I worried about kindergarten. I think part of the problem for my son and other extremely bright kids is that they don't relate well to kids their age because they are on such a different level intellectually. How will it help to put them with kids a year younger? I cannot imagine holding back a really bright kid. I would have sent both of mine at 4.5 if I could have and the second one is not crazy smart but just smarter than average. |
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Yep. Mom of late August kid, 2nd youngest in the class, not held back. If you already think your kid is on the fast track to AAP, you are wrong to hold her back a year. |
Anonymous
+1, another parent of the same |
Anonymous
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To OP, something else to keep in mind, my sons that were youngest in their class had a big advantage for the NNAT compared to my son who is one of the oldest in his class. Son oldest in his class got more correct on NNAT, but received a significantly lower age-adjusted score than sibling that was youngest in the class and missed more questions. I knew older kids had to miss less to get the same score, but I didn't think they could miss less and get a lower score than the younger kids taking it. All my kids went on time.
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