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In need of a c-section pep talk
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Anonymous
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I found out today that it's likely I'll have to have c-section because my baby is breech. This is my first pregnancy and I'm really disappointed by the news, even though of course I know that delivering a healthy baby is the most important thing. I'm very nervous because I'm overweight and am scared my recovery is going to be awful, especially when I want to be at my best to care for my baby. Not to mention that I hoped these wide hips I had my whole life would be good for something like delivering a baby.
Any one have any words of wisdom that can help me cheer up? |
Anonymous
| You are very close to having the last nine months of intense hard work pay off. No matter how the baby comes out, it will be here- safe and sound! Millions of woman go through it and take care of their babies JUST FINE! Just keep your head up, it's not 100% final yet...there is still a chance. Hugs to you! |
Anonymous
| Oh the plus side, you'll know your delivery date! You can plan things out a lot better that way (family coming to visit, etc) - while it might be stressful to think about the recovery, think of how much LESS stress you'll have worrying about when you'll go into labor! I know its disapointing but there are lots of bonuses to a sched c-section so just focus on those. Also, I've heard recovery for a scheduled c-section is MUCH easier than laboring and THEN having to have one. |
Anonymous
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Gimme a C, gimme a S,
Just kidding. I spent 8 weeks in natural birthing classes to have a breech with the first and a planned C. I spent about a week being crushed, and then I got over it, called some women who had had C's and got my gameplan together. I am an info is power kinda gal, so I got all the details I could... It was TOTALLY fine, the baby was great, I healed wonderfully. You will be okay! Good luck. |
Anonymous
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If you are in Northern VA... call Dr. Tchabo at VHC. He has a reputation for supporting breech vaginal deliveries... it might not still happen, but at least you will know you've tried.
Best wishes. |
Anonymous
Sorry, this is a shitty post and not what the OP was wanting. Please do not start with this. A doula laid a guilt trip on me about "at least trying" Knock it off. |
Anonymous
| Try not to worry. My view is, the end justifies the means - as long as the baby is born safely it doesn't really matter how he or she gets here. My son was late, so I was induced, went into labor and pushed for 2 and a half hours but couldn't get him out. So we had a c-section. My recovery was easy - no complications, minimal scar. Now we're expecting #2 and I'm planning on a c-section again, but this time will be easier because I won't have been in labor all day! |
Anonymous
| How do you try to deliver a breech baby? Seems like a horrible and dangerous idea to me - for mom and baby. |
Anonymous
| I had an unplanned C-section after a very long labor (and after spending a lot of time and money on a hypnobirthing class). The first couple of weeks were rough, but by 4 weeks I was 100% healed and had gotten the go-ahead from the doctor to even start working out (slowly, of course). If the C-section had been planned and I hadn't gone through all the laboring and pushing, I'm sure the recovery would've been even quicker, so you will be just fine. My main advice is to not refuse help from relatives and/or friends and to walk a little bit everyday, even if it's just 5 minutes of walking around your living room. |
Anonymous
| I had a C-Section with DD 1 and ended opting for a second with DD 2. I wasn't expecting a C the first go round at all, but it was totally fine. I didn't end up needing anything stronger than Advil once I left the hospital with either one. I'll probably get flamed for this but I liked C-sections because I am a very modest person. I just couldn't imagine being spread-eagled in front of everyone, my husband, pooping on the table, him holding my legs (it still gives me the chills) ugh. I liked knowing when I was going in, etc. it helped me to better mentally prepare. |
Anonymous
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I would start thinking of ways to make your c section special. Ask to have your catheter inserted after your epidural. Ask to have the baby placed right next to you while they finish. Ask to carry the baby out of the room in your own arms.
I would try not to waste another minute thinking of what could have been and focus on the amazing thing that is about to happen- you are going to meet your child. You are bringing a baby into the world- in the manner which is safest for your baby. What a gift you are giving your child. My second c section was so special becuase I went in with a great mindset- and my positive attitude rubbed off on everyone. Good luck and congratulations! |
Anonymous
| I was bummed about mine as well...in the begining. There is no way I was going to potentially endanger the life of my baby because I wanted the birth "experience" to be a certain way. Pretty selfish. The c-section wasn't bad at all, I was able to have my baby with me when they wheeled me out and the entire time in recovery. I had zero problems breast feeding and I healed super well and fast. |
Anonymous
The OP did not say she was against a breech birth. The 13:48 poster is just providing the OP with information that she may not know. I didn't find anything offensive about her suggesting this. She's just trying to point out that surgery is NOT the only alternative. Also, FWIW I know of a few women who have given birth to breech babies vaginally and everything turned out fine. The reason it may "seem like a horrible and dangerous idea" is because most OBs are not trained to safely deliver a breech baby. Dr. Tchabo however is (and mid-wives in the area can do that too). |
Anonymous
| Yeah, okay PP. Great advice. OP, go make yourself crazy with trying to find some quack doctor to deliver you breech... |
Anonymous
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"There is no way I was going to potentially endanger the life of my baby because I wanted the birth "experience" to be a certain way. Pretty selfish."
I agree with this PP 100%. That is exactly my mind-set. With the birth of my son, I was not out to make a statement or prove anything. In the end, all I wanted was to bring my son into this world as quickly and safely as possible. It wasn't about me or my "experience," it was about my son. And that will be my approach to the birth of my second child next spring. Having a c-section doesn't make you any less of a woman, and it certainly doesn't make you any less of a mother. How you bring a child into this world has no bearing on what kind of mother you'll be - how you care for that child after it's born is what's important. So if you do end up having a c-section, please try not to feel guilty or disappointed. You'll be meeting your new baby for the first time - what could be more incredible than that? |