What can I do to keep my husband away from the video games tonight?

[Anonymous]

The last few days DH has been going down to the basement and playing video games after we put the kids to bed, while I have been falling asleep. He comes up to bed around midnight. I am planning to drink some coffee this afternoon so I can stay up tonight. What can I do to make sure he wants to hang out with me and not the games?

[Anonymous]

Be interesting. Or naked. Or both.

[Anonymous]

You need pre-conditioning texts. No matter how interesting or naked you are, if he gets home with it in his head that he's going to go "decompress" and enjoy a few hours of gaming tonight, it will be hard to dissuade him. He'll "need some down time" or be "tired" or whatever.

Send him a few flirty texts during the day, indicating you want to hang out tonight. Maybe pick a couple of movies on Netflix you'd both enjoy and say something like, "Was thinking we could watch a movie after the kids go to bed tonight - XYZ or ABC look good to me. You up for it?"

Get him to agree BEFORE he's exhausted and looking for time to unwind/be alone.

[Anonymous]

Uh, Maybe tell him and it bums you out but he spends all that time playing video games so that you guys aren’t spending any time together?

[Anonymous]

BJ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BJ

On it's own, this isn't enough. Trust me... he gets his, and then thinks "Man, what a great night! Now I still have a couple hours to go play video games."

COMMUNICATE, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BJ

On it's own, this isn't enough. Trust me... he gets his, and then thinks "Man, what a great night! Now I still have a couple hours to go play video games."

COMMUNICATE, OP.

Yeah but he might be too spent afterward to want to play video games.

[Anonymous]

What happens when you tell him you want to hang out with him instead?

[Anonymous]

Sexy texts. You should know what works for him. Most guys are visual. Not sure if you are comfortable sending a sexy selfie (doesn't need to contain nudity) but something like that might get the party started. A subtle grab in the right location combine with a whisper about what you are going to do to him later might also help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need pre-conditioning texts. No matter how interesting or naked you are, if he gets home with it in his head that he's going to go "decompress" and enjoy a few hours of gaming tonight, it will be hard to dissuade him. He'll "need some down time" or be "tired" or whatever.

Send him a few flirty texts during the day, indicating you want to hang out tonight. Maybe pick a couple of movies on Netflix you'd both enjoy and say something like, "Was thinking we could watch a movie after the kids go to bed tonight - XYZ or ABC look good to me. You up for it?"

Get him to agree BEFORE he's exhausted and looking for time to unwind/be alone.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need pre-conditioning texts. No matter how interesting or naked you are, if he gets home with it in his head that he's going to go "decompress" and enjoy a few hours of gaming tonight, it will be hard to dissuade him. He'll "need some down time" or be "tired" or whatever.

Send him a few flirty texts during the day, indicating you want to hang out tonight. Maybe pick a couple of movies on Netflix you'd both enjoy and say something like, "Was thinking we could watch a movie after the kids go to bed tonight - XYZ or ABC look good to me. You up for it?"

Get him to agree BEFORE he's exhausted and looking for time to unwind/be alone.

OP here, and I like this idea. Not sure I am comfortable sending sexy selfies to him at work (someone else may see it). But I think a tasteful sexy text could get things started. It also kind of holds me accountable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens when you tell him you want to hang out with him instead?

He puts on a movie, I fall asleep, and he goes to play games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The last few days DH has been going down to the basement and playing video games after we put the kids to bed, while I have been falling asleep. He comes up to bed around midnight. I am planning to drink some coffee this afternoon so I can stay up tonight. What can I do to make sure he wants to hang out with me and not the games?

Go stand in front of the TV wearing lace panties and nothing else. Tell him to meet you upstairs in 5 minutes. If he doesn't come up, lock the damn bedroom door and let him sleep in the hallway

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happens when you tell him you want to hang out with him instead?

He puts on a movie, I fall asleep, and he goes to play games.

NP. I agree the first step is to just ask him directly if he'll hang out with you tonight. People suggesting "sexy texts" and other "hints" are missing that direct communication often works best. If you want something, ask him directly.

But you need to be reasonable too. If you fall asleep and he wants to go do something else once you're snoring, there's no problem with that, is there?

[Anonymous]

These seem like some extreme suggestions. Just tell him you want to hang out instead. But if you are falling asleep during the movie, I don't know why you care what he does at that juncture. Is he supposed to just sit there and watch you sleep?