Mom won't host Thanksgiving dinner

[Anonymous]

Called
My mom so that we could make arrangements for T-day. She and my father have decided to participate in a neighborhood Thanksgiving instead of hosting their family.

For the last few years mom asked us not to bring phones to the table so that we could talk to each other. This was ridiculous, and we ignored her. I wanted to post my kid's first T-Day on Facebook and others had to do similar things. Only snark was my brother and ex-GF texting to friends about my mom's tacky cornucopia centerpiece (which was actually tasteful).

Thoughts on how to handle parents? Is this a sign of early dementia?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Called
My mom so that we could make arrangements for T-day. She and my father have decided to participate in a neighborhood Thanksgiving instead of hosting their family.

For the last few years mom asked us not to bring phones to the table so that we could talk to each other. This was ridiculous, and we ignored her. I wanted to post my kid's first T-Day on Facebook and others had to do similar things. Only snark was my brother and ex-GF texting to friends about my mom's tacky cornucopia centerpiece (which was actually tasteful).

Thoughts on how to handle parents? Is this a sign of early dementia?

Well that's your problem right there.
I was invited to Thanksgiving with a family last year who had their cell phones out checking messages during the meal!
Assuming this is not a troll post (it probably is), no they still have all their marbles - at least on this subject.

[Anonymous]

Troll fail

[Anonymous]

Yes because thanksgiving is all about taking pictures and posting them,on Facebook. Also I don't see what is wrong about not bringing your phones to the table. It's rude to check your phone at the table. It's called manners.

Why don't you host thanksgiving? Probably your,mother is tired of cooking/planning for every one maybe she wants a break.

[Anonymous]

Go Mom!!

[Anonymous]

If it is not a troll post and there's a 99% chance it is, your parents have spoiled and selfish children. I'm sorry to point this out.

[Anonymous]

We never bring electronic devices to the table. It's rude and disrespectful to the cook.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you have s good mom with boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Should have used MIL or DIL to cue more DCUM outrage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you have s good mom with boundaries.

+1

[Anonymous]

You are rude and unappreciative OP. Good for your mom for making other plans. Will you learn your lesson?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Called
My mom so that we could make arrangements for T-day. She and my father have decided to participate in a neighborhood Thanksgiving instead of hosting their family.

For the last few years mom asked us not to bring phones to the table so that we could talk to each other. This was ridiculous, and we ignored her. I wanted to post my kid's first T-Day on Facebook and others had to do similar things. Only snark was my brother and ex-GF texting to friends about my mom's tacky cornucopia centerpiece (which was actually tasteful).

Thoughts on how to handle parents? Is this a sign of early dementia?

Do your parents live nearby? Your parents are going to a large Thanksgiving party rather than hosting. That's not a sign of dementia rather it's recognizing their children are adults and might not feel like traveling. If they are local stop in or invite them over for brunch.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like it’s time to start looking for nursing homes. They’re definitely off their rockers. Be sure to live stream the convo on fb when you tell them how you feel about the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are rude and unappreciative OP. Good for your mom for making other plans. Will you learn your lesson?

Totally agree. Snap a couple pics of baby in the chair with some food in front of him. Thanksgiving is not a big photo op. It’s a time to gather with family and be thankful for the things in your life—which should include a great mother who raised you, fed you, paid for things, consoled you. You sound ungrateful and bratty and she is well within her rights.

[Anonymous]

Wonder why she doesn't want you at her dinner table? Ha, boggles the mind that you can't sit for a dinner without mocking and ignoring your mom and other family members.