Am I my coworker's keeper

[Anonymous]

Without giving away too many identifying details I am wondering if this is normal in some places (I've never experienced it before)

Younger colleague has taken advantage of policies and been allowed privileges other people don't have
Person was supported by "management" and as a matter of fact close relationship with management
People started to notice the special privileges and became vocal about it because management was cracking down on others while colleague had permission to skirt the rules
Management cracked down on colleague but colleague continued the behavior because it had become habit at that point
Behavior continued to create issues in the work place
Management's supervisor likely caught wind and management "cracked the whip" and verbally attacked colleague
Colleague runs out in tears humiliated/hurt because management had allowed her behavior to go on so long
Colleague has been coddled by others for years and despite being an adult doesn't take responsibility for role in the situation
Colleague has been in the middle of a number of drama-filled events and it is just exhausting to me because (again) it impacts my work
Colleague seems to believe that everyone should support her toxic behaviors. Most people are understanding at first but person takes advantage and everyone has pretty much had enough.
Colleague is dumping issues on those around her and accusing others of not supporting her
When is enough enough???

[Anonymous]

So leave.

[Anonymous]

When you write a post that long, it should be obvious that that is enough.

[Anonymous]

What kind of "support" does she want? If she's asking you to do her work, cover for her, or defend her in front of management, of course you should say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Without giving away too many identifying details I am wondering if this is normal in some places (I've never experienced it before)

Younger colleague has taken advantage of policies and been allowed privileges other people don't have
Person was supported by "management" and as a matter of fact close relationship with management
People started to notice the special privileges and became vocal about it because management was cracking down on others while colleague had permission to skirt the rules
Management cracked down on colleague but colleague continued the behavior because it had become habit at that point
Behavior continued to create issues in the work place
Management's supervisor likely caught wind and management "cracked the whip" and verbally attacked colleague
Colleague runs out in tears humiliated/hurt because management had allowed her behavior to go on so long
Colleague has been coddled by others for years and despite being an adult doesn't take responsibility for role in the situation
Colleague has been in the middle of a number of drama-filled events and it is just exhausting to me because (again) it impacts my work
Colleague seems to believe that everyone should support her toxic behaviors. Most people are understanding at first but person takes advantage and everyone has pretty much had enough.
Colleague is dumping issues on those around her and accusing others of not supporting her
When is enough enough???

You have my sympathy.

I am experiencing the same with my elderly coworker who can’t afford to stop working. Yesterday, I spoke to everyone higher up that I could access and at the end of the day, this coworker was heard yelling and making accusations about enemies.

Folks like these destroy workplace morale and push good workers out. Knowing I’m likely to outlive my coworker has kept me around. I can’t imagine that crap from someone younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Without giving away too many identifying details I am wondering if this is normal in some places (I've never experienced it before)

Younger colleague has taken advantage of policies and been allowed privileges other people don't have
Person was supported by "management" and as a matter of fact close relationship with management
People started to notice the special privileges and became vocal about it because management was cracking down on others while colleague had permission to skirt the rules
Management cracked down on colleague but colleague continued the behavior because it had become habit at that point
Behavior continued to create issues in the work place
Management's supervisor likely caught wind and management "cracked the whip" and verbally attacked colleague
Colleague runs out in tears humiliated/hurt because management had allowed her behavior to go on so long
Colleague has been coddled by others for years and despite being an adult doesn't take responsibility for role in the situation
Colleague has been in the middle of a number of drama-filled events and it is just exhausting to me because (again) it impacts my work
Colleague seems to believe that everyone should support her toxic behaviors. Most people are understanding at first but person takes advantage and everyone has pretty much had enough.
Colleague is dumping issues on those around her and accusing others of not supporting her
When is enough enough???

You have my sympathy.

I am experiencing the same with my elderly coworker who can’t afford to stop working. Yesterday, I spoke to everyone higher up that I could access and at the end of the day, this coworker was heard yelling and making accusations about enemies.

Folks like these destroy workplace morale and push good workers out. Knowing I’m likely to outlive my coworker has kept me around. I can’t imagine that crap from someone younger.

You both sound really petty. Why don't you just focus on your work, stop gossiping and tattling, and grow up? If you can't handle it, leave.

[Anonymous]

First of all, in the real world, everyone has strengths and weaknesses. And in the work place, everyone is not created equal. Some people do get privileges that others do not.

I am allowed freedoms that some colleagues are not. Why? Trust. I will get the job done. And, while I might not be in the office, at 4:00 PM, I will be monitoring my email.

A few years ago someone reported me because they monitored that I was only at work for 5 hours but I billed for 8. Yes. I also worked 3 hours in the evening...Working with customers in other timezones...

In this case, I do not know the specifics. But, is the work getting done?

[Anonymous]

OP, do the work assigned to you by your boss. Don't take on work from your colleague. That's the end of your role in this situation. My most frustrating employees are the ones who think they know what work other people are doing and what is fair or unfair: they are inevitably wrong but, as the details are none of their business, will never believe that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So leave.

Obviously planning to but there are other factors that prevent it from happening right away.

[Anonymous]

I think I would have more sympathy for an elderly person. This is a young able body capable of doing something as simple as getting places on time.
That is the main issue. There should not need to be a plan in place to make sure this person gets to work on time so others don't have to cover for them.
[Person was supported by "management" and as a matter of fact close relationship with management
People started to notice the special privileges and became vocal about it because management was cracking down on others while colleague had permission to skirt the rules
Management cracked down on colleague but colleague continued the behavior because it had become habit at that point
Behavior continued to create issues in the work place
Management's supervisor likely caught wind and management "cracked the whip" and verbally attacked colleague
Colleague runs out in tears humiliated/hurt because management had allowed her behavior to go on so long
Colleague has been coddled by others for years and despite being an adult doesn't take responsibility for role in the situation
Colleague has been in the middle of a number of drama-filled events and it is just exhausting to me because (again) it impacts my work
Colleague seems to believe that everyone should support her toxic behaviors. Most people are understanding at first but person takes advantage and everyone has pretty much had enough.
Colleague is dumping issues on those around her and accusing others of not supporting her
When is enough enough???



You have my sympathy.

I am experiencing the same with my elderly coworker who can’t afford to stop working. Yesterday, I spoke to everyone higher up that I could access and at the end of the day, this coworker was heard yelling and making accusations about enemies.

Folks like these destroy workplace morale and push good workers out. Knowing I’m likely to outlive my coworker has kept me around. I can’t imagine that crap from someone younger.

[Anonymous]

But if the work is NOT getting done then it is a problem. It's a problem and the person has favoritism. The two together is a problem and other colleagues are resentful because they are doing everything they should but receiving the same perks.

Anonymous wrote:First of all, in the real world, everyone has strengths and weaknesses. And in the work place, everyone is not created equal. Some people do get privileges that others do not.

I am allowed freedoms that some colleagues are not. Why? Trust. I will get the job done. And, while I might not be in the office, at 4:00 PM, I will be monitoring my email.

A few years ago someone reported me because they monitored that I was only at work for 5 hours but I billed for 8. Yes. I also worked 3 hours in the evening...Working with customers in other timezones...

In this case, I do not know the specifics. But, is the work getting done?

[Anonymous]

The person in not my charge but the work they do impacts me directly. I do my work yet I get criticized because weak management doesn't deal with the one who wasn't carrying their weight. Now that management wants to call them on the ongoing behavior they want to get their feelings hurt,
won't come to work, and will do bare minimum work when there. So ultimately, I guess I am carrying the load for both of us.

Anonymous wrote:OP, do the work assigned to you by your boss. Don't take on work from your colleague. That's the end of your role in this situation. My most frustrating employees are the ones who think they know what work other people are doing and what is fair or unfair: they are inevitably wrong but, as the details are none of their business, will never believe that.

[Anonymous]

Work is not getting done. Basically others are covering for this person. Rest of the work falls in my lap.

Anonymous wrote:First of all, in the real world, everyone has strengths and weaknesses. And in the work place, everyone is not created equal. Some people do get privileges that others do not.

I am allowed freedoms that some colleagues are not. Why? Trust. I will get the job done. And, while I might not be in the office, at 4:00 PM, I will be monitoring my email.

A few years ago someone reported me because they monitored that I was only at work for 5 hours but I billed for 8. Yes. I also worked 3 hours in the evening...Working with customers in other timezones...

In this case, I do not know the specifics. But, is the work getting done?

[Anonymous]

Where does it say anything about tattling? The person who is not doing their job effectively is the petty one. They make the other teammate look back and the colleagues around the building are gossiping and resentful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Without giving away too many identifying details I am wondering if this is normal in some places (I've never experienced it before)

Younger colleague has taken advantage of policies and been allowed privileges other people don't have
Person was supported by "management" and as a matter of fact close relationship with management
People started to notice the special privileges and became vocal about it because management was cracking down on others while colleague had permission to skirt the rules
Management cracked down on colleague but colleague continued the behavior because it had become habit at that point
Behavior continued to create issues in the work place
Management's supervisor likely caught wind and management "cracked the whip" and verbally attacked colleague
Colleague runs out in tears humiliated/hurt because management had allowed her behavior to go on so long
Colleague has been coddled by others for years and despite being an adult doesn't take responsibility for role in the situation
Colleague has been in the middle of a number of drama-filled events and it is just exhausting to me because (again) it impacts my work
Colleague seems to believe that everyone should support her toxic behaviors. Most people are understanding at first but person takes advantage and everyone has pretty much had enough.
Colleague is dumping issues on those around her and accusing others of not supporting her
When is enough enough???

You have my sympathy.

I am experiencing the same with my elderly coworker who can’t afford to stop working. Yesterday, I spoke to everyone higher up that I could access and at the end of the day, this coworker was heard yelling and making accusations about enemies.

Folks like these destroy workplace morale and push good workers out. Knowing I’m likely to outlive my coworker has kept me around. I can’t imagine that crap from someone younger.

You both sound really petty. Why don't you just focus on your work, stop gossiping and tattling, and grow up? If you can't handle it, leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you write a post that long, it should be obvious that that is enough.

I see your point!