Why do some moms who can't stay at home, judge moms who choose to work?..
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Anonymous
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A friend of mine who wishes she could stay at home but can not due to financial reasons. She became annoyed when I informed her I will be working PT.
I will admit, I know we are very blessing financially, but my choosing to work has nothing to do with our finances. I love working, and while I stayed at home for 2 years, I'm reading to transition back into my career, starting small and hoping to up my hours. I love her dearly and as a friend, it hurt me to hear her scoff me for basically choosing to do what makes me happy. I'd like to think working has many blessings. I will not be as stressed as a mother, and being happy will enable me to function better, and dedicate more time to being the best mother I could possibly be. My friend didn't have time to hear any of this, her comment was abrupt and well to diffuse the situation, I changed topics. I'm still stewing over this though. Should I call and ask her to meet me to work out this issue?.. I don't want things to get awkward between us. ... |
Anonymous
| You rubbed it in and had it coming. Be grateful you have choices. You shouldn't need validation from a friend who has less choices than you. Sounds narcissistic. |
Anonymous
| Did you say that working part time would be less stressful than staying at home and make you a better mother? Because as a working mom in the same situation as your friend, the implication that working moms have less stress is rude and oftentimes incorrect, especially if they don't have money to throw at their problems. |
Anonymous
| Troll. |
Anonymous
| Im hoping you didn't tell her this would make you a better mother!! |
Anonymous
It sounds like your friend has more sense than you. That you're actually naïve enough to believe the bolded, is the problem - not your decision to return to work. How on earth would working make you less stressed as a mother? You'll now have to balance the demands of motherhood and your job, no easy feat for most humans. How will you be able to dedicate more time to being the best mother you could possibly be, when you'll have far less time to do so? Your friend probably recognizes all of the above but didn't want to come out and say so. BTDT |
Anonymous
+1 
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Anonymous
| Dump your friend cos it's pretty obvious she suffers from matyrdom |
Anonymous
| Wonder if we can not turn this thread into a SAHM vs WOHM mommy war |
Anonymous
| I'm confused -- she's upset because you are going back to work? Doesn't she work? |
Anonymous
Only if most people are able to recognize this as an obviously bored troll. |
Anonymous
Problem is it's almost always obvious, and people still take the bait :/ |
Anonymous
I've heard many WOHMs say that they are a much better mother working than they would be as a SAHM because they're not good at being at home with kids all the time. They get bored, lonely and irritated and are not good at it. Telling a working mother that you would be a better mother if you were doing the same thing she's doing (though PT, not FT) is not insulting. If OP were to say she was telling her WOHM friend she was going to quit and be a SAHM and be a better mother as a result, THAT would be insulting. |
Anonymous
and yes I understand you will be part time -- but if she was going to be upset -- I'd assume it would be if you continued to stay home. I wonder if the problem was in how you explained that you will be part time. |
Anonymous
| Because they can’t hack it doing both and can’t accept that kids of working moms have the same relationships with their parents and succeed just as well in life. |