Wife is careless driver

[Anonymous]

She got into another fender bender for no other reason than being careless. She admits this herself, by the way, I'm not making it up. Most recent accident she admits she was looking at her GPS and turned into the adjacent lane without looking at the mirror at all; just turned I guess based on faith alone. I'm frustrated. What can/should I do? She has an accident of one type or another every 6 to 9 months on average. Luckily so far nothing major but I am at my wit's end.

[Anonymous]

What is she like when she is not driving? Do you ever let her drive and just observe to see if you can spot any tendencies? Does she have attention deficit disorder? If you have kids I'd really be concerned. Does she talk on the phone in the car?

[Anonymous]

Is it cheaper to keep fixing things or only let her take the bus, train, and uber? You decide.

[Anonymous]

She’s going to run over someone’s baby at some point. Move to a walkable neighborhood and take her damn keys away, please!!!

[Anonymous]

That's nuts. People like her should have their license revoked. Why we give a license to anyone with a pulse in this country, then let them keep it forever without retesting, is a goddamn mystery to me.

[Anonymous]

I am hardly a model driver when it comes to distractions and I've had two accidents my whole life - backing into my dad's car in the driveway, and tapping the bumper in front of me in highway traffic. Once a year is a really alarming number of accidents. I think you should consider a driving assessment.

[Anonymous]

Get her a car with automatic brakes! The newer cars will stop before a fender bender happens.

[Anonymous]

If the accidents have been reported she will have issues with the police and the insurance company. Some day it will be far worse than a fender bender and the liability could be enormous. Her driving skills, or lack of, need to be assessed before she really hurts herself or someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the accidents have been reported she will have issues with the police and the insurance company. Some day it will be far worse than a fender bender and the liability could be enormous. Her driving skills, or lack of, need to be assessed before she really hurts herself or someone else.

Agreed. After your points on your license fall so low, you actually lose your license just like a drunk driver.

[Anonymous]

I would separate my finances. Have your insurance rates gone up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would separate my finances. Have your insurance rates gone up?

You can’t get a separate policy from your spouse. I called and asked. I live in VA though, so maybe in another state.

[Anonymous]

New cars will not let you do this.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like your wife. She talks non-stop and is a lousy driver. I don't know if it is undiagnosed ADHD but we will never let her drive us or our children. She doesn't know why, but it's a firm family understanding. We meet her at the outings. And, yes, she's had some disastrous smack-ups.

[Anonymous]

Is she willing to retake drivers ed? I agree on the newer car also.

[Anonymous]

It may be worth looking at a newer car that alerts her to drifting lanes, stops automatically, etc. It sucks giving her something new that she could easily destroyer, but hopefully it stops her in time.