Is this bullying?
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Anonymous
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Mother does everything for the family but also holds a tight rein. Scolds husband and kids (son and daughter) for the tiniest things, even when they get sick, because they must have done something wrong to get sick. Would take a bullet for loved ones but also absolutely insists that she knows what's best for everyone. Son grows up and moves across country to get away from her influence while daughter has a difficult time asserting herself as an adult.
After becoming empty nesters nurses husband through prolonged illness. Does everything she thinks husband needs while ignoring his own wishes. When son visits insists on hovering and directing everything he does. Son blows up and mother becomes spiteful and badmouths son to daughter frequently. After husband passes away moves closer to daughter and starts doing everything she thinks daughter needs, even over daughter's protestation. Helpful with child care and cooking but has no respect for boundaries. Complains of having no time for self but refuses to stop cooking for daughter's family even when daughter begs her to stop. Does not trust anyone to do things properly and likes to correct daughter on everything. When daughter pushes back dismisses daughter's feelings by telling her she's too sensitive. |
Anonymous
| Controlling and bullying. |
Anonymous
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I wouldn't call it bullying, which is not to say that it's acceptable behavior. She just has no boundaries and thinks that she knows best.
And her daughter needs to stand up for herself. This mother gets away with the behavior because the daughter allows it--and accepts the child care and lets mom into her kitchen. |
Anonymous
| Controlling and emotional abuse. |
oldwisdom
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| Not really bullying but more of abuse. |
Anonymous
| The daughter needs to evict her. |
Anonymous
+1 Often one in the same. Type A's constantly stress *themselves* out. |
Anonymous
| Needs anxiety medicine. Daughter is just paying lip service to this if she's allowing her to cook every night. Change the locks and tell the mom to stop coming over uninvited. Stand up for herself. |
Anonymous
| The mother is controlling. I do not believe daughter can accept any help from mother because mother bulldozes over everyone. |
Anonymous
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Doesn't matter what you call it
People have free will Free will to be with some people, not others Or not as much, or only under certain circumstances What it's called does not matter |