Question for dating couples

[Anonymous]

You're in a relationship for a few years and a friend texts you asking you to spontaneously hangout together to welcome an old friend of both of yours who is in town for a shorttime. Would you say yes?

I ask because I texted a friend and she said she can't since she has plans.
I asked what plans do you have since we'll all be in the city anyway.

She says she is having dinner with her boyfriend. And then shopping with and having dinner with her boyfriend on Saturday and staying in with him on Sunday as well.

Erm I understand not wanting to change plans with a new boyfriend but after a free years...can't you tell your bf to spontaneously change plans?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's just not interested in seeing an old friend.

[Anonymous]

not if i already had plans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Maybe she's just not interested in seeing an old friend.

This. Or perhaps the BF or her job is far more intense than yours, and they only get so much downtime together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're in a relationship for a few years and a friend texts you asking you to spontaneously hangout together to welcome an old friend of both of yours who is in town for a shorttime. Would you say yes?

I ask because I texted a friend and she said she can't since she has plans.
I asked what plans do you have since we'll all be in the city anyway.

She says she is having dinner with her boyfriend. And then shopping with and having dinner with her boyfriend on Saturday and staying in with him on Sunday as well.

Erm I understand not wanting to change plans with a new boyfriend but after a free years...can't you tell your bf to spontaneously change plans?

It was rude of you to ask what her plans are.

[Anonymous]

Is that really what she said or are there more to her plans? (Also, I assume they live in the same city and are not in a long distance situation which would be more understandable.)

I have been with BF for 3 years. If I didn't actually want to see the friend I would make up some excuse (like she did although mine would be more thoughtful) so does she actually want to see this person??

Yes, I would generally have no problem changing plans with BF last minute if it was something I wanted to do. However, we both travel for work frequently and he travels every other weekend so I do consider the weekends we are both in town to be "sacred"...I would only change plans if it was something I really wanted to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're in a relationship for a few years and a friend texts you asking you to spontaneously hangout together to welcome an old friend of both of yours who is in town for a shorttime. Would you say yes?

I ask because I texted a friend and she said she can't since she has plans.
I asked what plans do you have since we'll all be in the city anyway.

She says she is having dinner with her boyfriend. And then shopping with and having dinner with her boyfriend on Saturday and staying in with him on Sunday as well.

Erm I understand not wanting to change plans with a new boyfriend but after a free years...can't you tell your bf to spontaneously change plans?

It was rude of you to ask what her plans are.

yeah! none of your business what her plans are. The point is she said no to you. the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is that really what she said or are there more to her plans? (Also, I assume they live in the same city and are not in a long distance situation which would be more understandable.)

I have been with BF for 3 years. If I didn't actually want to see the friend I would make up some excuse (like she did although mine would be more thoughtful) so does she actually want to see this person??

Yes, I would generally have no problem changing plans with BF last minute if it was something I wanted to do. However, we both travel for work frequently and he travels every other weekend so I do consider the weekends we are both in town to be "sacred"...I would only change plans if it was something I really wanted to do.

I am the same way. My fiancé works an odd shift so we only get a small amount of time together during the work week and we aren’t really able to do much together, so on his days off seeing him is my priority. And yes, even after several years, he’s always my priority and I get excited for date night.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't care much for you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She doesn't care much for you, OP.

OP here. I figured. Feel stupid for thinking of including her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She doesn't care much for you, OP.

OP here. I figured. Feel stupid for thinking of including her.

We've all been there. It hurts, but now you know. And you can move on. And enjoy your weekend!

[Anonymous]

She sounds lame.

[Anonymous]

You both live in the same area correct? Just this friend is from.out.of town? It doesn't sound like the two.of.you hang out normally, so I kind.of.get it. You wanting her to explain her plans is really rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She doesn't care much for you, OP.

I moved 700 miles away from home 7 years ago. I cannot think of a single person from my past that I care to see again. If someone called me because someone else who I knew 10-15 years ago was in town, I'd just say no. No explanation.

[Anonymous]

I asked what plans do you have

Inappropriate