How often do you visit with your in-laws without your spouse?

[Anonymous]

How often do you visit with your in-laws without your spouse? How often do you visit with your children without your spouse?

Of course, if your in-laws aren't local, this question wouldn't apply to you.

[Anonymous]

Never. They are local. No kids, so much easier to avoid them.

Sometimes spouse even visits them without me when I don't feel like I'm in the mood to deal with their crazy.

[Anonymous]

Never once in 20 years.
Does your spouse visit your parents without you?

[Anonymous]

1. Never. 2. No kids.

[Anonymous]

My mom is local and my husband has never visited (for the sake of visiting) my mom with or without the kids. He does occasionally go to do handy man type work.

[Anonymous]

Weekly. Mil in nursing home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never once in 20 years.
Does your spouse visit your parents without you?

No, not just to visit. He has, in the past, played a round of golf or gone fishing with my dad, but never gone over just to visit.

[Anonymous]

I visit ILs with the kid often. MIL and I do spend time together and chat on the phone often even though she drives me nuts at times, we are very, very friendly.

DH never visits with my parents on his own. That is more a function of him not being much of a relationship manager and my dad being lazy about relationships as well.

[Anonymous]

Never to both questions. Because I need the buffer from him just about always. We have two kids. If I'm busy on a weekend, he takes the kids to see them on his own. Unless there were health reasons they couldn't drive, I'd never take my kids there on my own. But I also don't think they'd ever request this as they'd feel very awkward about it too.

[Anonymous]

I actually spend a lot of time with my MIL one on one, and with the kids. We have some common interests. She is also very helpful with the kids when we need it, and she even comes to visit my family with us when we go.

Guess we are lucky.

[Anonymous]

Once.

My husband could not get days off and I took the red-eye across the Atlantic to visit his family.

[Anonymous]

Ew, NEVER!

[Anonymous]

When my MIL was alive - I would visit the IL's with the kids usually once a week, maybe a couple of times a year by myself. Since she died, a combination of the kids being older and busier and my FIL being just a grump has me now just not doing it at all. My MIL was interested in my kids and treated me as an important person in the extended family. We were never warm, cuddly, buddy buddy but I appreciated that she promoted family bonds and even though she sometimes overstepped (well tried!) my boundaries as to what she would weigh in on, at least she was transparent and didn't hold grudges re my walls. I miss having that connection

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never once in 20 years.
Does your spouse visit your parents without you?

Mine does. He stops by for lunch when he is on their side of town. He loves my parents.

[Anonymous]

Never in 10 years. Why would I? DH travels a lot and so my parents come to help me a lot. DH's parents have never offered to help and I sort of feel like they should help more than my parents because they're geographically closer and it's their son that's traveling.