My kids are so spoiled
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Anonymous
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I have a 4yo and 6mo. Both my parents and DH's are divorced and they pretty much all try to out do one another with toys and gifts. Since we often see at least some of them once a week that means a constant stream of presents. Not only are we bursting at the seams, but a lot of it is big expensive stuff like bikes, ride on cars, doll houses, ball pit, roller coaster thing, etc. My 4.5yo DD also loves dresses and between my mom and MIL she probably gets at least one new one each week. Christmas is a joke - DH and I don't even buy anything since ODD gets so much.
DH and I have politely asked everyone to tone it down big time but they just won't. We do appreciate their generosity but ODD is getting way too spoiled. My kids are the only grandkids on either side at the moment, and not sure that will change any time soon. Anytime I tell her one of her grandparents is coming over she immediately asks if they are bringing her a present. And she asks them as soon as she sees them too. She also will hint at random toys she wants and they will magically appear from amazon a few days later. If I can't get everyone to stop bringing them kids gifts, what can I do to help ODD not be so spoiled and to not expect gifts or to get everything she wants? Really at a loss here. |
Anonymous
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"Please only give the children presents for their birthdays or the holidays. We have to donate stuff because there's no more room. Thank you for understanding."
You need to be plain and direct, OP. |
Anonymous
| They are not spoiled, they are well loved. We have stingy grandparents. Want to trade? |
Anonymous
Not necessarily. Op specifically said that all parties involved are divorced and competitive about this. Sounds like a big power play that is more about the adults than the kids. Op your loyalty must be to your kids and not these passive aggressive, narcisstic adults. Be firmer. No more gifts til holidays and birthdays. Then, stick to it. These are YOUR children. |
Anonymous
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Rotate out toys and put some in the closet for a rainy/snowy day.
Can your Dd do some "work" for Mil and grandma so she's doesn't feel so entitled? For example, clear grandma's place setting and bring her dish to the kitchen...or whatever situation you think is a good way to do something worthy of receiving constant gifts. |
Anonymous
Toys aren't love; nor is money. |
Anonymous
Agree. OP, give stuff away. My parents would over do gifts, especially at Christmas. Kid's would unwrap the gifts. Some went directly to charity after my parents left. Kid's didn't miss a thing and neither did my parents b/c they were always buying stuff. |
Anonymous
| Tell your parents again that you will only let the kids receive on their birthdays, holidays and special occasions (like graduations). Reinforce it by giving away the gifts they buy the kids before the kids see them. |
Anonymous
| Do a big cleaning. Get rid of what's not used. Then tell DD for every new dress/toy that comes IN, one has to go OUT. Then stick to that. |
Anonymous
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OP one of your kids is 6 months old, that kid is not spoiled by gifts.
Also, I find it odd that you refer to your child as ODD. |
Anonymous
+1 Your title is misleading. "Only granchild on both sides receives lots of toys". |
Anonymous
+1000 |
Anonymous
| Not making a big deal out of it might help. Okay, there is another toy or another dress, but gratitude is a must. Your kid will get tired of saying "thank you, grandma". You can make sure your daughter makes a card for every present and also says thank you in person or on the phone. Then, you start making grandparents gifts for every occasion (name holidays, beginning of winter holidays, etc). |
Anonymous
| ^your kid making gifts, not parent |
Anonymous
| How about they save money for those kids thier grandparents love so much? Eh, toys are not important, make memories, don't collect things. Kids gets spoiled and bratty. |