Defining "bisexual"

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that people have different definitions of what "bisexual" is. Whenever the discussion comes up about dating a bisexual person, there are invariably people that assume that someone who is bisexual is 1) having sex with both men and women 2) promiscuous and untrustworthy. But neither of these are necessarily true. "Bisexual" just means that a person is attracted to both men and women. They may, or may not, have had sex with both (or either). As for #2, this is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The negative assumptions about bisexuals forces them to be secretive about it, which results in situations where bisexuals are "caught" being on the down low, which reinforces the negative stereotype. Many people have experienced a degree of same-sex attraction, but these damaging stereotype make it impossible to have a reasonable discussion about it.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you're trying to justify being untrustworthy and "promiscuous." No one pushes you to be that way. Own it. We trustworthy, monogamous bisexuals want no association with your behavior.

[Anonymous]

As a bi woman married to a bi man, my definition of being bisexual is that you could imagine yourself enjoying sexual activity with someone of the same gender as you. It doesn't necessarily mean you are equally attracted to men and women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a bi woman married to a bi man, my definition of being bisexual is that you could imagine yourself enjoying sexual activity with someone of the same gender as you. It doesn't necessarily mean you are equally attracted to men and women.

Oh, and it obviously dictates nothing about what your sexual experiences have been, or whether you are comfortable with open relationships. It's utterly idiotic that people have decided these things go hand in hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you're trying to justify being untrustworthy and "promiscuous." No one pushes you to be that way. Own it. We trustworthy, monogamous bisexuals want no association with your behavior.

That is literally the opposite of the what the post was trying to convey. The point is that "bisexual" just means "same sex attraction." It doesn't mean anything about behavior. Someone can be bisexual and have zero same-sex experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a bi woman married to a bi man, my definition of being bisexual is that you could imagine yourself enjoying sexual activity with someone of the same gender as you. It doesn't necessarily mean you are equally attracted to men and women.

Interesting. I think if "bisexual" as more than just maybe some same sex sexual attraction, more that you are equally interested in relationships (sexual and emotional) with men and women. I would think of someone in an opposite sex relationship but who could imagine enjoying same-sex sex as more "bicurious" or "heteroflexible". But that's just my take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you're trying to justify being untrustworthy and "promiscuous." No one pushes you to be that way. Own it. We trustworthy, monogamous bisexuals want no association with your behavior.

That is literally the opposite of the what the post was trying to convey. The point is that "bisexual" just means "same sex attraction." It doesn't mean anything about behavior. Someone can be bisexual and have zero same-sex experience.

What did this part of the post convey to you? "As for #2, this is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The negative assumptions about bisexuals forces them to be secretive about it, which results in situations where bisexuals are "caught" being on the down low, which reinforces the negative stereotype."

To me, that sounded like someone trying to justify sneaking around and cheating, which is what being caught on the down low entails. Tell yourself, "I'm bi, and everyone thinks that means I'm a lying cheater, so I'm forced to lie and cheat." See how self-serving that sounds?

[Anonymous]

I like to suck cock and I like to eat pussy. I like to make out and do other foreplay with both men and women. I's that a good definition?