Another wedding vs fertility treatment timing question

[Anonymous]

I've seen various threads about people asking if they should delay TTC for a friend's wedding and usually the responses are fairly unanimous: don't delay. Often those questions are people waiting many months or people who are older and every month really counts. What would you say in this murkier situation?

My close and dear friend is getting married in Atlanta next month. I'd like to start an FET cycle but if I do, there's a really good chance I won't be able to fly to the wedding because I may be in daily monitoring or could need to do the transfer. We are in our mid-30s. I really want to do the cycle now but she'll be so so sad if I miss the wedding, and I'll also miss spending time with a lot of childhood friends. What say you, DCUM?

[Anonymous]

I feel like a FET is the easiest kind of cycle to delay and also the one that is the most certain that you can pick up the next month. Stress doesn’t help any cycle, so I would wait and start when you know you don’t have any travel plans.

[Anonymous]

FETs are easy to plan around. When I was ready for mine, I told my doc & nurse at SG any dates I needed to plan around and they made sure my calendar was free those dates. (With prep for a cycle, your FRT wouldn't likely be in October anyway given we are in late September.)

[Anonymous]

There is no reason why you can't do FET and go to your wedding. There is no daily monitoring for FET and you can easily schedule the transfer itself so that it doesn't coincide with the wedding day. I have moved my FET so that my doctor do my transfer at SGF.

[Anonymous]

For a FET, I'd push back the one month. Go enjoy the wedding, then do it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks. In my case, my protocol does have daily monitoring towards the end and no BC - so the timing is harder. I agree, this may be the time to push it. Just hard to make that decision at this point.

[Anonymous]

Go to the wedding. For an FET and a wedding one month away, I would just delay the FET.

[Anonymous]

Would anyone chance it and potentially fly in and out on the wedding day (missing the rehearsal dinner?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would anyone chance it and potentially fly in and out on the wedding day (missing the rehearsal dinner?).

Not me, but I really don't have any embryos to waste on a non-optimal FET. Stress decreases the success of any cycle, so I would wait.

[Anonymous]

D.C. to Atlanta is a quick flight. Are you actually in the wedding? You could literally go to monitoring in the AM, fly right after, and still get in with plenty of time. I'm a big believer in just going for it. For reference, my latest (successful) cycle was done amid 3 different trips, some of which were a week long and very expensive and planned a year in advance. Well lo and behold, my stim phase that cycle took twice as long as any other cycle and the timing was perfect. I don't buy the stress excuse - infertility is stressful no matter what.

[Anonymous]

I would suggest that you go have fun and put it off one month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:D.C. to Atlanta is a quick flight. Are you actually in the wedding? You could literally go to monitoring in the AM, fly right after, and still get in with plenty of time. I'm a big believer in just going for it. For reference, my latest (successful) cycle was done amid 3 different trips, some of which were a week long and very expensive and planned a year in advance. Well lo and behold, my stim phase that cycle took twice as long as any other cycle and the timing was perfect. I don't buy the stress excuse - infertility is stressful no matter what.

Could you get back later that night if you had monitoring again the next morning? That sounds exhausting - I think you are better of delaying by one month.

[Anonymous]

Do the transfer. Once you get pregnant you'll be faced with situations like these over and over again.

[Anonymous]

i think you should talk to your doctor about protocol. I also didn't do BC for my FET. I just did oral estrogen and progesterone. I was in california and my clinic was in DC (GW). It was difficult to schedule the FET because of holidays and booking flights and my busy schedule. I was able to keep taking estrogen to prolong the cycle a little bit and it wasn't a big deal ( and yes it worked). My doctor went over this with me initially because i was nervous about the timing and flights etc...

[Anonymous]

Daily monitoring for an FET? No. You go three times throughout the cycle, if that. If the wedding really is next month, you'll probably be in either the BCP or Lupron phase anyway. Most of the clinics around here an FET is a 6-7 week process between your period and transfer. I would get the process started now.

As an example, I got my period on August 18 and my transfer will be the first week of October. I will have had three monitoring sessions in there (and had my estrogen not been low last week, two). I am at GW.