"You're a wonderful mother"
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Anonymous
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Is this the best compliment you have ever received? A nanny, of all people, said this to me yesterday and I think it is absolutely the best compliment I have ever received!!! I can't believe how happy it has made me.
Am I weird or insecure or what? I have been pretty successful in my career and have my own style so I am not starving for compliments in general. Why does this mean so much to me? |
Anonymous
| I think it's a fantastic compliment. It means a lot because parenting is hard work and someone who works "in the business" recognizes what you put into it, and the love you give your children. |
Anonymous
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My mother and MIL have said this to me. It's nice.
My husband gets told he's a wonderful father all. the. time. Just for walking down the street holding our daughter's hand. People routinely stop by our table in a restaurant to tell him that they think he's a great father. I'm sitting right there. I get no flicker of acknowledgement. I think it's a nice thing to hear and it's not said nearly often enough to women. |
Anonymous
| DS used to tell me, "Mommy, you're such a good boy" LOL It tickled me. |
Anonymous
| I agree. It makes me feel great. I'm not sure if it's the best ever compliment, but it ranks up there!! |
Anonymous
| If someone said that to me (other than DH, who says it all the time), I'd be over the moon. I try so hard to be a good mom that having someone on the outside recognize it would probably make me feel like a million bucks. |
Anonymous
| People have said this to me. It does make you feel great! I think what some people have meant when they've said it is that I seem more relaxed and confident as a FTM than a lot of other FTMs I see. Plus I have a naturally happy, easy going kid, so (unfairly) it seems like I'm doing a good job. It's easier to do a good job when you have a low stress kid! |
Anonymous
Of course I'm a wonderful mother. But it's nice when others say it 
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Anonymous
| Being a mother means that you hear a lot of people telling you that you're doing it wrong. Your choices are scrutinized or judged, and it often seems like you can't win. Having someone say that you are a good mother is just such a nice change! |
Anonymous
| I love when people tell me this! |
Anonymous
I am not sure what you meant by "a nanny, of all people..." but having a nanny tell me I was a wonderful mother would mean more to me than just anyone saying it. The nanny has probably seen a lot of mothers out there and worked with a number of them. |
Anonymous
| I am an outlier because I dislike hearing that. There is no one way of being a good mother and people from the outside rarely can see/accurately whether you are a good fit for your child or not. |
Anonymous
Super cute! |
Anonymous
| I think it is a lovely compliment. I don't know if it's the best ever but it does make me feel good because so much of what we do as moms is completely thankless. |
Anonymous
Yeah I guess, but I wouldn't read so much into a compliment. I interpret it as, your kid seems happy and you seem happy. Good job at seeming to like each other. My sister has a VERY high needs child and really struggled to adjust to motherhood after idealizing it in her mind for a long time. Her experience gave me a lot of compassion for parents who are doing a ton more work than I am, but still struggling with the day to day. It's a lot harder for her to be a mother than it is for me, so I try to remember that when people pat me on the back for successfully raising my super easy kids. |